I was in a long distance relationship & she who would repeatedly tell me that she loved me madly and was totally commited. We discussed marriage. We talked for hours a day despite the distance. She would be very uncomfortable with me going out on weekends. So I would stay in and talk to her. However when I would call her in her time zone during her weekend nights sometimes she wouldnt answer. After this happened for the 7th time I wouldnt let it go until she told me the truth. It took two months of me pressurizing her but she finally told me that she used to go clubbing with her ex bf. Also she dated men off an internet dating service. She admitted to sleeping with atleast 3 men including her ex bf. I dont knw but there may be others. During those 18 mos we met up around 5 times.She used to portray herself as an angel who could never look at another man. She says this happened bcause of the distance she wants to move in with me in my city or I with her. Will she cheat again?
2007-01-22 23:24:23 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
people can always find a reason to cheat, sounds as if she showed u what she wanted u to see in her, as we all have a dark side. u had to pressure her for the truth, so it didn't exactly come easily. she may or may not cheat again, we never have a guarantee, depends if u love her, and want to be with her, and u can get past the cheating she did on u. she sounds like one of these women that has to have a man around her all of the time, can't stand being alone. may not be the best one to pick, not to mention dangers from std's.
2007-01-23 04:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a feeling she is honest in her feeling due to the fact of DISTANCE......
Nothing can affect relations more than being away from one another, but we cannot make a General Rule out of this comment; i.e., the Distance Issue...
People would differ from one to the other, and to endure & resist seductive nature of humans incorporating both distance and the absense of one's other half is a relative issue here.
I just am a bit hesitant due to the fact that she had seen Three Guys...This is a bit bewildering...Unless her ex bf does have a girl in his life, and could not be with your gf at all times..., which is the only logical reason why she resorted to others...
In all cases, what she had found as a MOMENTARY SOLUTION was to date some guys over the net, and I think this called for some guts to do, and if I was to find justification for her, I would say she meant to date somebody who she never known before just to find an easy way out once things go back to normal...
If I were in your shoes, I would ask her straight whether or not it is going to be A SINCERE RELATION from now on IF YOU KNOW YOU REALLY LOVE HER...
You can read her eyes and heart on the spot, but she needs to know that divorse is what will be awaiting her in case insinserity was traced at any point of time....
You need to take a Firm decision here my friend, since you wish not to live in a world of doubt...IT IS A KILLER....
All you need to do is to take a responsible decision, and act accordingly...BUT I cannot tell you if she is gonna cheat again... This will entirely depend on YOU AND ONLY YOU in all terms & by all means...
You can change stone into water with love...I mean REAL LOVE in both Body & Soul...
Bear that in mind.
Good Luck
2007-01-22 23:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She feels like she's heavily lacking in shallowness, self-self belief and self-restraint! via a extreme case of lack of self belief, she seeks reassurance interior one among those interest/sex/"love" from many adult males. Distance and loneliness isn't her difficulty, so that you 2 residing interior an same area received't drastically improve her habit. What she is providing you is a danger to dote on her, love her, be dedicated to her and for use for all of this stuff and abused by technique of her want to seek those similar forms of success from different adult males as well. if you're a guy who's conscious what it ability to committ (on any aspect B/F, Husband, even with) to a lady, then do your self a pick, meet a spectacular woman who can do an same at abode. you'll keep your self the price - economic and emotional - of a flow to a clean city.
2016-12-02 22:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by anuj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are always tough, to impossible.
I´m not sure whether changing cities would be a good idea, too much has happened.
If you happened to find yourselves working in the same cities in the
future then i would give it a shot (everybodys human) but i would not move in until you are sure that the relationship is working for YOU and making you happy.
2007-01-22 23:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by happy d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will she cheat again?! Wouldnt' she have to stop for two seconds for it to qualify as "again"? If I heard anyone I had ever been with engaged in that kind of activity, that'd be IT! I'd gently hang up the phone, pick up the tv remote and relax, thinking about what I was doing the next day without her!
2007-01-22 23:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by XL HaHa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think that you are the only one who can decide what you can forgive and you should really listen to your gut on this one. I have always been of the opinion that once a cheat, always a cheat. I think this wouldn't have been so bad if she wasnt expecting you to be committed to her. Good luck. I am so sorry that you had this experience. Hugs.
2007-01-22 23:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by gramma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bro- are we dating the same girl? listen to me, i found out my gf was cheating twice(that i know of so far) and she swore she was sorry, regreted it all that crap, and within a week her phone would go right to voice mail and she admitted to me she went and had dinner with this guy agai! but nothing happened because it was that time of the month-like that makes it ok!! here's the kicker we live together and the very night before she ran out with this guy again we were talking about kids marriage all that crap, women are deceiving coniving, lying cheats(not all you ladies hopefully) but so far, that's all i've met. trust me bro- she'll do it again, your wasting your time with this one, she's only sorry because you caught her, not because of what it did to you, buy her some pumps and a mini skirt and tell her to hit the streets!
2007-01-23 01:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that she 's going to do it again,i mean all those guys she was with.she didnt even do it with one but three thats disgusting,i think u better start looking out for someone who will treat u right and will never cheat on u.that girl sounde like a whore that doesnt want any serious relationship right now.hope u make the right decision.
2007-01-22 23:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by hott g 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is in her to cheat. No matter how hard you try to change her she will still go back to her old habits. It is not advisable to move in with her cos she just wants sex and some company. If she slept with 3 guys with caring, it is hard to understand why she prefers you. let her evaluate what she wants in life. Ask her whether you mena anyhting to her at all and what she though tof while she was sleeping around. If she seems to get her way with words tell her to saty two months away and she should prove to be faithful to you. In this period do not weaken and have sex with her. If she manages to stay true to you and doesn't try to have sex with you then you can move in together. If she has sex with different men then you have to enroll her to a sex anonymous committee.
2007-01-22 23:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know why are you even asking this. Everybody knows that once a cheater is always a cheater. You're more than blind if you really honestly think she will respect you when she moves with you. More than one man? Dude, you want to pimp her out or what? I would dump her if I was you.
2007-01-22 23:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by M'lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋