My husband cheated and is cheating on me. First, he admitted he had sex with another woman then he denies it. He keeps emailing and calling this woman while all along telling me he loves me and he doesn’t wanna lose me. He never did stop this relationship and I don’t think he has any intention of stopping. He even talked to her about divorcing me so I thought ending our marriage would make him happy. I already filed for a divorce because I couldn’t take it anymore, I couldn’t continue living like this and that I believe he is not going to change. Then he begs, pleads and cries that I take him back and that I don’t continue with the divorce and yet when I tell him I will push through it, he threatens me by saying he has a lawyer and they are going to ask for alimony. Seriously, this is driving me nuts!
2007-01-22 23:10:43 · 20 answers · asked by ohioan_femme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pay a little bit of money for a private investigator so you have proof of his cheating. He wont get a cent out of you for alimony. Perhaps it will shut him up and you can get on with your life.
Sorry that this guy is such an unbelievable jerk to you!
2007-01-22 23:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by Julia A 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are co-dependent on your own misery. You should split the sheets, have your divorce put back on the court docket and put this miserable marriage behind you.
Your husband will continue his cheating ways with the other woman and possible even with women you are not aware of.
Alimony---no such thing....There is maintenance now in the courts.
Don't be afraid of his threats----he doesn't have an attorney and he's pulling the wool over your eyes and you're falling for again more lies.
Get this creepo (husband) out of your home and call your attorney up and say BUD this one is for YOU...NOW do it. Don't look back---move forward---and who knows----you might be the one granted maintenance + 1/2 of his 401k pensions etc. 1/2 of all the assets---including your marital residence if you own it!
Pick up that telephone today an talk to your attorney and get your dissolution show on the road to the court house!
2007-01-23 07:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you can get a copy of the e-mails and proof that he has been cheating do because if not he might be able to get alimony. GL and you are doing the right thing don't know if you are a christian but if so the bible says that having an unfaithful spouse is reason for divorce. Hope all works out and you find some one who will be faithful God bless
2007-01-23 07:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he wants his cake and eat it too. My husband cheated on my right after we got married. I found out he had been flirting with her before we got married and even seen her the day we got married. I was in the navy at the time and had to go to virginia. He was with her the day i left. He soon moved down there with me, it didnt last long before he came back home. As far as i know it was ended when he moved down there and he hasnt spoke to her since. We got divorced last year, and are now back together. He slept with 3 or 4 girls while we were seperated and divorced that i know of that still come around. That is the difficult part. I dont believe that he would cheat on me but you know that is always in the back of your head. I would say that if you want out of this relationship get out no matter what he "says" dont wait that will only make it harder. If you want to make it work, it may be possible. I never thought i would be back with my ex. go with your heart. Good luck!
2007-01-23 08:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Takita F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sue the girlfriend for alienation of affection. It is legal to do that! She is causing you pain and hurt and suffering. You can nail her butt off her. Find out what your rights are. He cheated on you he doesnt deserve you. Get enough alibis together to prove your point.
He is a heartless man who is not only immature, but does not know what he wants from life and he is hurting everyone around him. He needs a huge big smack!
I think people like this deserve everything they get. Wheels do turn!
DO what your heart tells you to do. You have all the right to divorce him and be freed from your hell that you are now encountering. I wish you well and good recovery. If you walk with God, and include him in all this, ask God to frustrate the plans of evil in your life and see what transpires.
God bless you. God is the restorer and he will heal you and compfort you and restore to you all the years the locusts have eaten.
2007-01-23 07:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother paying for a P.I. You already have enough proof. Divorce him, and site infedelity. If he really tries to take your money, try to take his. Otherwise, it is better to just get him out of your life. TRUST ME. There are better days ahead. You will never trust him again anyway. Sounds like he is begging for you not to leave him because he knows he messed up. He is just being selfish and wants the best of both worlds. Divorce his a** and find someone who deserves you.
2007-01-23 08:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
. Ask your attorney about the divorce laws in your state as far as alimony is concerned. I believe in California if the duration of the marriage is over 10 years, then the spouse that made the most money would most likely have to pay alimony to his/her spouse. Appears as if this marriage is not worth the pain it is giving you. So please decide to do what is best for you. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-23 10:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is trying to control the outcome, wants u and the other woman also. he threatens u when he finds out your not going to stop it. think he has no intention of stopping what he is doing. divorce him, as u really can't believe anything he says. he is now denying it because instead of forgiveness he got divorce papers, needs to keep u around just in case it doesn't work out with her. doesn't want to loose control of things, wants to keep all of his options open.
2007-01-23 12:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, please stop acting so as to make him happy. Don't exactly forget his happiness but the old adage is absolutely true, "If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody going to be happy." What does that mean? Make your decisions for you and what's best for you. You've been married to a cheat and a manipulator. More than likely, that means he's about 8 years old (or less) in emotional age. You will not be able to reason with him very effectively nor, or course, act so as to make him happy. Do what you need to do. If you WANT to be married to a cheater and manipulator, don't get the divorce. If you don't want that, you know what you need to do. Make the best decision you can for YOU.
2007-01-23 07:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Threats and more threats from him. Dump his sorry a s s, he has already proved without a doubt he is untrustworthy. You now are the most important person in this relationship, obviously he is only concerned about himself with no regard to you, Move on, move up and get yourself a barracuda of a lawyer.
2007-01-23 10:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is abuse and you let him get away with it ; when he cries , hand him a tissue and send him on his merry way; he made a choice now you have to stick to yours or you are asking for a revolving door of misery ; you are wasting your time he wasn't into you; you need to move on and find someone who has earned the right to be in your company; when you lie with dogs you get fleas; this man has fleas; fumigate your house, your heart, your mind and find that perfect someone ; don't settle for this loser; he is a loser b/c he lost you ! be strong, not easy, invest in yourself; the best revenge is for you to improve yourself and look and feel awesome; him and his girlfriend can talk about that in bed ; put your boots on and walk over this man to the judge and divorce him and find a great guy; you can't find him if you are waiting for this guy to shape up ; won't happen tick tock ; don't sign up for more misery; sign up for a new life a new you! Life is short ; don't waste it; the bottom line is respect ; there isn't any for you from him; now you take him back then there isn't any self respect either; let the door hit him in the a on the way out; SEE YA
2007-01-23 07:18:55 · answer #11 · answered by sml 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋