i am bisexual, annd in my expieriences it has been close to impossible to find a decent girl!..even as just a friend!..but guys on the other hand i can relate to more, and i have more meaningful conversations with them...they talk about females, i talk about females..we usually have simular interests..but i am not wanting a guy, i want a girl...but it seems girls are only interested in sex only and standing me up in cold weather, not caring about my feelings..and 1 things that really erks me is if they are bi, somehow thier bf wants to join or watch us having sex!....i have started going to a gay/lesbian bar/club here but i don't think those are the right kind of women i could have a meaningful relationship with...i have a bf myself and have a baby on the way, but he is very understanding and caring and is ok with the fact that i want a relationship with a female..could that be a reason i'm not getting anyone seriuos?..i tried personals but that doesn't help either...
2007-01-22 22:54:03 · 12 answers · asked by Sydney 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well no need to be be angry, i am a decent person, i am friendly to people, i help people when in need..there is no reason for the flaming i am getting, i understand if people do not believe in such things...i don't believe in the bible, doesn't mean i go and tell people who do that they are wrong and they need help do i?.....my personal veiws and choices are my own and i do not need help, if whats good for the goose is good for the gander then why should you care?....
i wouldn't exactly be at the bar if i knew of some decent meeting places around my area for meeting females for myself..but i am not familiar with this city nor am i familiar with bars and clubs and local organizations that cater to lesbian and gay people....
2007-01-22 23:21:17 · update #1
also it isn't like i am lying, i tell anyone i meet foremost and upfront what my situation is...i do not cheat, it is not cheating if both parties know about the situation and approve of that situation...
2007-01-22 23:23:17 · update #2
being a mommy ha nothing to do with it..i've been this way ever since i was old enough to be attracted to someone..this isn't a passing phase or some thing i just thought it would be cool...i'm not like that, infact i am more attracted to females than i am males and if i am attracted to a guy, usually they have some type of feminine quality about them...just becuase i turned into a mommy doesn't mean i should'nt want a female to be with....i swear people think pregnant women are fragile and breakable...oh and btw, i don't smoke, never have...never will, and also i don't drink when i am pregnant..i'm not reckless you know...i go to the club to dance and get out of the house becuase i rarely ever do, especially now that it is winter...
2007-01-23 01:25:06 · update #3
No more than any other prospective partner. I'm sure your bf can be a headache too. Look at your situation, do you think that the timing is right for you to be looking for a gf? You seem to have a lot going on, just now - perhaps although the desire is there, your subconscious is keeping you back from adding to your plate?
2007-01-22 23:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im the same gay with a boyfriend ans a daughter, well my daughter doesnt live with me at the moment but will soon. the only reason i have and have had boyfriends is cos i cant find a woman i like enough, the damn things dont seem to exist, i havent had a best female friend for about 2 yrs cos the old one went behind my back over something major, the one i have now is good as a friend but yno not exactly my type, i jokingly told my mum the other fay if there were nicer girls around where i live i wouldnt have xi (my daughter). i understand completely, the whole thing sucks, there must be nice gals out there i just dont get to meet them.
2007-01-23 00:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by blakorkid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I am the same way (rather hang out with the boys and talk about girls and I am bi)
I have not met my gf's in gay/lesbian bars. The girls that I have met were from places that I have worked, college, etc.
It takes a while, but I have met up with friends and built up relationships with them. Some of them are bi but are not open about it. I descretly ask them questions to feel them out. In turn, I will say something about me. I wait for their reaction. Don't come out and say, 'I'm bi you want to go to bed with me?' In a relaxed setting, I would come out and say something like, What is the craziest halloween costume you have worn for Halloween? Then I mention that I went as a witch in a black see thru nightie wearing a thong. (I got the girl that I was interested in showing up in something like that for a halloween party) Wait to see their reaction. Then from there you know if you need to stop or maybe down the road ask another question.
I would suggest getting out there and become more social. I know with a baby on the way, it may be rough. I have a little one too. It may take a while to get out there. But when you are able, join clubs or groups. Build up your relationships first. With baby on the way and your BF agreeing to another girl, you just don't want 'anyone' sharing your bed.
Good luck with your new baby. I hope this helps.
2007-01-23 01:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Brianna C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you hear what you are saying?? How dare u brush all girls like this and yet u r just as bad as it gets.
Girls give u headache cause they can't stand u so u get what u deserve. How can u say the girls at the bar/club aren't the right sort while you r living with ur BF and wanting a bit on the side?
U need serious Help,
2007-01-22 23:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by SMB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to cool it and concentrate on being a mom. It sounds like what you are looking for is a female friend. The best way to get a friend is to be one. You won't find that in bars, or being with men. You are having a child, it shouldn't be hard to find other mothers to communicate with.
It isn't good for you or the baby to be in bars, talk to your doctor about the possible repercussions of smoke and alcohol on your fetus.
2007-01-23 00:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just to let you know there are some females out there that are serious i myself am a lesbian and have been with my patner for 7yrs and we still get on as great as the day we met so not all lesbians just want sex,my partner acually lived next door to me and we got on so well and still do to this day id sooner have a lesbian relationship than a straight one any day as i find you can talk about problems easier with a woman than a man cuz they understand your point of veiws more x
2007-01-22 23:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by victoria e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely females are NOT headaches. its the person who create his own headache. its easy to find a decent girl if u mingle to a decent community. how can u find one if you are always in a bar or in a society where lots of girls lost their direction in life. i still believe that decent girls outnumbered those indecent. dont search, just wait. honestly, sex is only secondary to every female, the most important is companionship and compatibility.
2007-01-22 23:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by che 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from, But I will say that the right chic will come along...... have you ever been on www.downelink.com well you should check it out. There are a lot of cool people on there. Its actually where me and my girl met...lol... Congrats on the baby!!!!
2007-01-23 08:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the fact that you have a boyfriend and a baby on the way might slow you down a little.
2007-01-23 00:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're the headache that women can't deal with,
examine your issues
2007-01-22 22:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by center of the universe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋