this guy has kept in contact with me now for over a year. i met him through my ex.
whenever he is out in town, he texts me to see if im out too to meet up. we live in different cities. This happened when i was with my ex too.
we have met up a few times and have only kissed, despite him wanting more!
after we have met up i dont hear from him for a while and he ignores my messages. i then dont contact him anymore. but, after a while, he comes back texting me again just like before and the whole thing starts again!!
i have been abit of a tease by staying over his place.
i really like this guy but i dunno whats going on.
he knows i ended my 6 year relationship with my fiance 8 months ago who i had my own place with. he knows my ex has moved away. he did know of my ex but they were not friends.
i have heard that this guy likes the chase.
hes 29 and single.
when we are together we get on great and he always compliments me etc etc..
2007-01-22 22:49:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i didnt end my relationship for this guy.
2007-01-22 22:50:10 · update #1
i agree with westley k, but i would say just drop him. he is not what you need if you have just broken up with a fairly long term relationship. he doesnt know what he wants. he only wants you when he thinks you have lost interest, and when you try to go further he loses interest. i think guys like that are always like that, they will never change. my friend's ex is exactly the same way, and she goes through torment with him coz she cant decide if he wants to get back with her or not. lose him and find somebody with a bit more character.
2007-01-26 11:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by wolf man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy doesnt really know what he wants and is messing about with your feelings. Seems he only wants you when you dont want him etc, By ignoring your texts to him and not texting you till he wants something etc.Sounds like he isusing you. By you being ignored then when he comes back on the scene you allow him back in by texting back you are allowsing him to do what he wants to you, and are not really taking control of the situation and allowing him to manipulatre you. If this guy was clearly interested he would keep in touch or explain why he hasnt etc.
I think you have 2 options
1. Tell him how you feel about it all and tell him you like him and want to make a go of things. However i think he already knows this and its what he has used to pick you up and put you down when he feels like it.
2. Drop him like a stone and move on. This way you keep full control of your destiny without allowing him to manipulate you and mess about witrh your head.
I suspect from your previous relationship you are kinda of vulnerable so being on your own without allowing this guy to mess with your head, will allow you to find yourself and like i said will give you control over your own destiny.
Good luck
2007-01-23 07:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by Westley K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like one of many with this guy. Forget him he`s just using you. You have just come out of one relationship that did`nt work out, which makes you very vunerable. Put a bit of distance
and get out and enjoy yourself, then just see what turns up. Good-luck.
2007-01-23 07:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by JoJo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite simply - he is only thinking of himself and his needs. You are entitled to a life - ignore his texts and find someone who does deserve you. I would say "don't waste any more of your time on this guy"
2007-01-23 08:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by See it as 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just stringing you along. Keeping you in mind along with other 'friends'. This if from a mans point of view!
2007-01-23 06:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by Spiny Norman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that both of you are playing games. that is not healthy for any relationship.
http://www.yourromanceguide.com/articles/relationships/
and tips-
http://www.yourromanceguide.com/tips/relationships/
First define your love goals and then decide.
2007-01-23 07:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is useing you as a booty call. Forget him and move on.
2007-01-26 14:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so but ask him why he stops texting u
good luck
2007-01-23 06:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by little one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just shag him and get it over with.
2007-01-23 06:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by madonnas_minge 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋