i'm so i love with my girlfriend we have been together on and off for about 10 years the problem is we only made love once because not only the Bible but "society" says i'm wrong all my family and friends except me but half of them says i have to "deal" with God...why would God be mad at me for being happy? I'm so unhappy because I want to be myself...Thank You in advace
2007-01-22 22:38:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, actually, The Bible doesn't say anything about Lesbianism being wrong. If your religious convictions are so strong that you feel obligated to deny yourself happiness in life, then I wonder what kind of loving God would require that of you - else he cast you into eternal damnation.
You Love who you love. Love is the key here - not other people's impression of what Love shold be and who should be the participants.
2007-01-22 22:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Not always does love conquer it all but sometimes it is the deepest feeling you have inside that Willl make you realize what it is that you really want. Are you sure that you want to be with a women, could it be that your are just putting society and the bible as an excuse to hide your true feelings. If you really feel sure about what you feel, the God that is watching us wil probably judge you by your actions and not by your feelings. It is not wrong to love someone and it is not wrong to be loved. The wrong comes in when your in denial of you true feelings. It more or less sounds like your letting society control you life. Be free to express yourself and remember you are not the first nor the last women on this earth that feels the way you do. Let God judge you when the time comes. If you feel in your heart that you are true to yourself then you must trust and take responsibility for your actions. I recommend to start off slow and think about what your doing as your doing it and if it still feels wrong take time out for yourself and set your feeling straight. and if it doesn't feel wrong any more get all the loving you could get.
I wish you the best.
2007-01-23 07:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by friendlydidly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl...
You are the only one that make your future. You are the only one in control of your life, including your love life. If you have been around this girl for 10 years and still know that she is who you love...then you should definitely be with her. I was just in a relationship with a male for 10 years. I just told him on x-mas eve that I had feelings for a Woman that I've known for 8 years. I hadn't seen her in about 3 years and then she came out of no where and I can't get enough of her. She makes me so happy! I also have 2 teenagers that adore her as well. My life is completely different now. Everyone looks at me differently, but not weird. Life is short and you have the absolute right to be happy!
2007-01-23 07:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, clgirl, how do u define happiness? is it love making ? God cannot be mad at you for being happy, even now, God is not mad at you but worried about you because you have a wrong perspective to happiness, does your girl friend feel the same way you do? the only way you can have true happiness is to love your girlfriend unconditionally even if you dont make love which 'I' consider wrong because you are both female, even if it was a boyfriend, making love cannot give you happiness and if you are not married, it might bring about heart break which will make you sooo unhappy afterwards, the only way to have true happiness is to love God, and love your neighbours as you would love yourself.
Keep loving your girlfriend but unconditionally...no sex! Prove your love by sharing, caring, and having fun together, God loves you both. Agape!
2007-01-22 22:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by wiro 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Mature advice: NO ONE knows what God is thinking etc. and I mean no one. Humans wrote the Bible and add their own twists over the years to scare people into believing what they wanted them to-check out religious history if you think I'm wrong.
God is many things to many people but especially LOVE. He made ALL things including gays and lesbians-check out the animal kingdom.
Society makes the rules for the "lower" classes and then breaks them. That has been going on for hundreds of years.
While having sex was designed to procreate it has become a part of love making and not necessarily to create.
If you are in love with someone and it is returned usually making love is a part of your relationship. Society, friends, family, and the church have nothing to do with it at all.
As to what God might think: He created you as you are with all your faults, intelligents, kindnesses, etc., etc., etc. and yes, who and what you will become. He gave you the gift of yourself and it is up to you to become that person or someone designed by family, friends, etc.
Will you be a shadow of those people or a light of God?
2007-01-22 23:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If society is that important to you then do what you have to do and keep your mouth shut if necessary immigrate or move as far away as possible in that way you can reinvent yourself. As to God, well he is a forgiving almighty so even if this happens to be seen you can always ask forgiveness. Your argument for forgiveness would be, if God created us then he should give us the right sexual orientation. If we are borne like that what can we do, this makes is God's fault for creating wrong.
You suffered fro long enough go ahead and have fun.
2007-01-22 23:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by SMB 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need spiritual advice from someone who understands your situation. I would strongly suggest you contact MCC, Metro Community Church. Simply google it. This church is world wide and its ministry is GLBT. This is a wonderful place to call home. My g/f is a born again christian (I am not religious), and this is where she can go and be who she is, and worship her religion.
God is is not mad at you. You are putting human emotions on a higher power. The two don't equate.
Good luck to you, and I hope you find some peace.
2007-01-23 01:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not worry. Just do not! God will not be mad at You, i'm sure. U're not doing anything bad, U love a human being, and that's good, no matter is it a man or a woman. That's what is good. Do not listen to society or no matter who. Just try not to annoy them.
Make love! make her happy and U too. ;)
Best wishes!
2007-01-22 22:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by luxagen 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It is my personal opinion that God can forgive anything, even behavior after you are born again - no christian is perfect, everyone sins. The problem just comes in because our society judges your behavior as worse than theirs, but to God any sin is just as bad as any other. You are no better or worse than someone who gossips, is overweight, does not tithe, etc.
It is my opinion God wants you to be happy, so find and accepting church (many methodist are) go, have your relationship and be happy (this is me talking not God, he gets final sayso - but this is how I live my life)
2007-01-22 22:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by startrektosnewenterpriselovethem 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The Almighty (His name is YHVH) gave humans a great gift... Love sex and marriage in the family setting. If we take that gift apart, we destroy it. (It is a package deal) It is normal to be attracted to people of the same sex. However, sexually is not the way to express and confirm that attraction. There is a right way and a wrong way to do most everything, and the wrong way in many cases is very damaging (to self, to others, and to relationships). I believe that YHVH knew what He was doing in setting up the "rules" the way He did, and that we will be blessed, and happier if we follow His rules. By all means, be yourself, but express yourself in acceptable ways. (If you were very angry with someone, you might consider expressing yourself by killing them. That also would not be a good way to express yourself--- but there would be ways that you could express yourself which would not be damaging)
2007-01-22 22:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋