My children were born before I married their father. He didn't want to get married until he needed a visa for a country. We got married when they were toddlers. Are they 'legitimised' by the marriage?
2007-01-22 22:15:33 · 20 answers · asked by katy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not unless he signed the birth certificate and did he give the children his last name?
2007-01-22 22:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every child and every adult is a legitimate being. If not, we would not be in God's world. Placing your child in this world is God's work. You and your partner are only the agents he uses to do His Holy work.
It is only by man's narrow vision that marriage was instituted. Marriage is good for the stability of the family. We have given it a legal status from the point of view of bequest and inheritance of property. It only legitimises his/her right of inheritance. It does not "legitimise" the existence of the child. Since you and your husband have always been together with your children, you were no different to your children than married parents are to theirs.
The important thing, and also much to be admired, is that both you and your husband have been very close and together in reaching momentous decisions, and have been very supportive of each other throughout. With parents like you, your children will have a fine home and sound upbringing with true values -- like how to be faithful and loyal and stay together always.
Do not be put off if anyone calls your children "illegitimate" or "bastards". They are as much God's children as any other living being, human or animal.
But to safeguard your children's interests, I advise you to make a will right away, even if you are both very young and may not have much to pass on. Also, please take proper legal advice so that your children are not deprived of certain rights in their childhood, youth, and adulthood by virtue of their being born before their parents got married.
2007-01-23 03:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally hate that word and the word bastard. All children have a father, whether the father is with them are not. Without a man a child can't be born, unless you are the virgin Mary. Your children was legitimize when you had then. They have a father in heaven even if the father on earth didn't follow the plan of marriage. To me. I would be more worried about marring a man that only wanted a visa card. It's not God's plan for us to have kids out of wedlock, but it happens and no child is a mistake, bastard, nor is he/her illegitimate.
2007-01-22 23:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter. We live in an age where "whos my baby daddy??" is the topic of every talk show. The fact that you are married to their father says alot whether it was before of after your children were born. I wanted children first so that they could be there at my wedding, something I always wished as a kid was to see my mum and dad get married but they did it before I was born. Don't worry about it x
2007-01-22 22:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by Banny Grasher 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Technically, legally, spiritually or emotionally?
First of all, children born out of wedlock are technically (and legally) illegitimate. BUT you two are their parents and you two ARE married. It's nobody's business how things got off on a less-than-proud foot.
Love each other, and love your kids. IMHO, the label of legitimacy is less important than the daily reality...
2007-01-22 22:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by Julia A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was given paperwork by the registry office to amend my daughters birth certificate when i married her father 18 months after her birth dont recall what it was called.
2007-01-25 12:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. They are.
Legitimate, I mean.
You've asked 2 questions here......firstly are they illegitimate, then are they legitimate. You will need to read your answers carefully to try to work out which of your questions is being answered.
2007-01-22 22:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by lou b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well noadays alot of people do have children be4 marriage some even have their children and never get married
2007-01-22 22:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Marjorie O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will love your children the same so whats the point. the answer to your question is no, they're not. according to law, they must be born before the wedding in order to be legitimate.
2007-01-22 22:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by alexis christian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are legitimate children because they legally belong to you.... If these are his children and his name is on the birth certificate they are legally his anyways.
2007-01-22 22:20:55 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋