Is it common for people to leave dirty dishes for more than 1 day?

Question

Hi,

My wife and I have an agreement that who ever cooks the other does the dishes. When I cook my wife seems to think its normal to leave dirty dishes for more than one day - Is this common for people to do because I really don't like it?

Thanks for the reply... :-)

Answer 1

jeeze....does it really matter? More important things in life than "dirty dishes that are left in the sink". Wash them when you get a chance!!!

Answer 2

Take it easy on the ol' wife. It's not unheard of. Especially if you both have kids, jobs, and very little time.

Since it is something you absolutely hate, you 2 need a plan. You can make a flexible schedule, in which she HAS to do the dishes that day, but she can do them say, between 6-9 pm. That way she doesn't feel pressured or rushed to do them.

Or, she could do all the cooking, and you do the dishes.

OR, what I suggest, buy a dishwasher!!!! Start saving up a little each month if money is the issue. Since we now have apartment size countertop dishwashers for under $200 or even less, I have no idea why everyone doesn't have one!!! It's so worth it.

Answer 3

With only the two of you it would not be wise to run the dishwasher every day. At my house I usually have a full load every second or third day. If you do dishes by hand I would try to do them every day just so they wouldn't pile up and would be easy to get clean. But if I was tired or there weren't very many letting them go one day is just not that big a deal. Seems like you guys have a good start on a good marriage, why not sit down and discuss the dish issue before it takes on a life of its own. Compromise on this there will be bigger issues later and now is when you build a firm foundation of trust between you.

Answer 4

I feel that if you have the time to do the dishes, do them, dirty dishes eventually draws bugs and its just nasty to see dirty dishes left out like that. But for your issue, although you don't like the dishes left, maybe when your wife does dinner, you leave the dishes and then have her cook dinner the next day and then she will have to do the dishes in order to cook.

Answer 5

I don't know if it's common, but I leave dishes for more than a day. For me, the dishes are just not that high on my list of priorities, when compared to spending time with the kids, my hubbie, or going to sleep. 24 hours is my limit though. If they're left overnight, they get washed the next day. No big deal.

You say you don't like it- why? And if it bothers you enough, even if you did the cooking that night, and your wife is willing to leave them, just wash those dishes yourself, of get a dishwasher.

Answer 6

Yes this is normal expecially if the people are busy and not at home very much.... Most of the time we dont leave dishes in the sink for mor then a day but at times i have when i was sick or really busy or not home much.... If you dont like it then you make sure the dishes are always done and you will be happy for it.

Answer 7

Hi, your wife likely already had this habit before you two lived together, and also her family probably did this too.

There are some people I know who leave a bit of dirty dishes for more than 1 day. I also used to be one of them because of my busy schedule and tiredness after coming back from work. But after getting help from FLYLADY, my sink never has dirty dishes for more than 1 day. Someone from Yahoo Answers recommended to me, and I would also recommend to your wife:

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Answer 8

I used to leave them for a long time...Sometimes one or both of us were so tired (and/or more interested in intimacy in the bedroom than washing up!) and the dishes got left unwashed.

Perhaps a better solution is to cook together, and wash up together afterwards. I'm always more interested in doing the dishes if there is someone to keep me company.

Answer 9

It is common. We have a dishwasher and 3 kids. I try make sure that they do get done everyday or every other day. At this stage in our lives we realize that it is more important to spend time with our children then to have a spotless house. We live by this rule "Is it gonna matter in 5 years from now if ________ didn't get done" If we say no we don't worry about it. Good luck

Answer 10

i could like a clean, tidy abode, yet with 2 toddlers it type of feels very almost impossible. they are in a position to empty out a cabinet interior the time it takes me to teach around and understand what they are doing. I save the kitchen clean huge-unfold (no longer constantly tidy although), and attempt to do a load of washing huge-unfold. the bathing room gets a clean approximately as quickly as each and every week. The flooring actual want a sweep or vacuum each and every 2d day, yet that generally does not get performed. I actually have a huge load of ironing that desires doing, yet that would wait till I take a seat to computer screen television. i actually hate house household initiatives, and am heavily pondering quitting!