My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years - there is a 9 year age gap which has been bothering me for the last year. I have told him that I don't love him but he won't except it and says he can't just leave!!! What shall I do?
2007-01-22 21:03:00 · 30 answers · asked by Nicky J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why dont you leave ?
2007-01-22 21:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to Tango, right? You dint say if there are Children present, that does make a difference but in the end, if you no longer love him it will be noticed by the Kids and therefore create a dysfunctional Home base. Not good for anyone. What we project comes back, always!
If you haven't had counseling, i suggest you both try this route first. If already done, well, other had to make decision's before you and so can you, no matter if he doesn't want to leave. No love in the Home, is not a Home!
2007-01-23 05:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by SwissAK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why has the age gap suddenly been bothering you? There must be more to it than that. have you started fancying someone younger? Anyway ; why should he leave just because you want him to? You are the person who wants the marriage to be over so why are you not leaving? I speak as a woman who wanted her marriage to be over some 20 odd years ago and did just that.
2007-01-23 05:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It cant just be the age that is bothering you, you have been together so long and its only getting too much now, i am 23 and my fiance is 36 and i am extremely happy with him, what is really bothering you about the relationship there has to be somethin underlying, have you met someone else, has he cheated, have you cheated?
And the other point is if he wont leave why have you not tried?
2007-01-23 05:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the age gap bothers you so much and you do not love him then why don't you leave?
Why does he have to leave when you are the one who has decided it is over?
2007-01-23 05:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by bottomburps 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you dont want to be with him, leave him. It may be rough on the both of you, but file for divorce or legal separation and make the split. If you want to save your relationship, try it, but I would say you've already made your choice, just go ahead with it.
2007-01-23 05:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jadeba12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u say u have been married for 8 years why do u want to leave him now moreover u guys aren't quarrelling so i really think u should give him a try. patience is the key to make the marriage work especially if u have children.
2007-01-23 05:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by FUMZY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a very sensitive situatiuon... You must answer many questions: Does he love me? My love turn to rejection and a little bit of hate? Will I Hurt Him by asking him to leave? What will happen if I will leave him/keep him?
Try to make it less painfull...either way you choose...
Good Luck!!
2007-01-23 05:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by Alexander4love 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am thirteen years older than my wife being together for 28 years married for 24 years no proplem you have to work at it but in saying that only you know the answer
good luck
2007-01-23 05:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by PAUL D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, didn't you think of this when you both started the relationship?
My God you don't love him or you don't love him anymore? you need to be specific sometime,okay?
He can't leave you because he still feel something for you, something str8 from the heart, why don't you ask him, why he can't just leave you..
Hope this helps..
2007-01-23 05:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by codedfeelins 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would an age difference matter to you after all this time? I don't understand. Is there more to this?
Anyway, it is of no matter, it you don't love him anymore - he has to go!
If he won't leave you are going to have to take your brave pills, pack your things, and go.
Good Luck, XXX.
2007-01-23 05:18:45 · answer #11 · answered by rainbowarrior73 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋