For some reason, i tend to get along better with the guys. However, most of my guy friends end up liking me during some point of our friendship. How do I avoid all this mess without offending anyone?
2007-01-22 20:55:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ignore it as if it never happened. If you continue things as normal then they will start to too and eventually not like you and just see you as a friend again.
2007-01-22 21:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by KatieL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Especially if you are a wonderful lady, it is impossible to avoid it. Proximity breeds attraction. You can opt to live alone if you want to avoid it. The best option is to tell them that you mean only friendship. It will be more offending if you just move away from your friend without being clear about your thoughts and feelings. Honesty is the best policy.
2007-01-23 05:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Dar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be a very sweet person who is also really pretty (I'm not trying to hit on you, in case you're wondering). Well, my best friend is a girl who like you, gets along with guys more than with girls. I actually ended up liking her too because of how great of a person she is. I really wanted to be with her, but she didn't want to because she feared that it would've hurt our relationship as friends. We ended up discussing about it, and she made me realize that being boyfriend and girlfriend don't last often, but true friendships last forever. Pretty much, if it happens again, talk to him and make that guy realize that you love him as a very great friend, and tell him that if you get with him, it might break up your friendship between you guys, and tell him you don't want that. Keep on telling him this, and eventually, he'll realize how important friendship is. Oh, and about my friend and me, it's like nothing has happened. We're still great friends, but now I tell her everyday how grateful I am of meeting her, and that she's family to me.
2007-01-23 14:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously a wonderful sweet person, who happens to be attractive.
There is no way to avoid it. Most of my friends were girls and the same thing happened. Just think of it as a better pool to look for your husband.
But on a serious note, be up front and tell the ones that you wont date no upfront when they want one. Tell them that you are not attracted to them in that way and it would be like kisising your brother.
Most guys will respect the upfront explanation rather then being led along.
2007-01-23 05:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by lovingdaddyof2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most men can often have this problem tell them just friends once when this happens. If they cannot deal give them some space, some alone time then come back to them later and see if they can get back on the friendship track. I have mostly friends who are female and it takes a certain level of understanding and cooperation on both sides to maintain the friendship.
-NmD!
2007-01-23 05:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do too. Guys are alot more easy going. Sticky situation... Just let them down gently by saying that you prefer them more as a friend than a boyfriend, and that if you did start dating and it didn't work out that your friendship wouldn't be the same again. Charm them by saying how much you cherish their friendship and you don't want to jeopardize it by having a fling with them
2007-01-23 05:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Richbitch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell, them straight up that there freindship means a lot to you, and that's all you want from them. If they get upset then maybe they were playing the friend "role" to try to get you into bed. I have this problem with a lot of female friends and eventually I find out who is an actual friend and who is just an admirer.
2007-01-23 05:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by ??? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is after a feeling u can't stop it for happening .u can love any thing . just be good friend & to avoid love only thing is that keep a distant from ur guy friend
2007-01-23 05:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by dilu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't really get around it..it's not your fault...consider yourself blessed... you have good charms(apparently) and you look good
so just take them as they come let the fellows down easy but when you do make sure that you tell them that you value there friendship and want to stay friends
2007-01-23 05:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by katey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe stop hanging out with so many guys? no offense, but i personally can't stand girls who always hang out with guys and end up having the reputation as a "player". im not saying you are, i dont know you at all, but what im saying is hanging out with guys all the time can get you a bad rap with alot of people quick. just a tip.
2007-01-23 05:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋