Well, I am 20 years old and pregnant for the first time. I had only met the guy once before and we hit it off very well, we talked and exchanged numbers nothing happened with it. Then we both met again at a party we both attended in december, i drank a little to much then i ended up leaving with him and we had sex. The next morning was really odd, he said that he would talk to me and give me a call later on that afternoon. I hadn't heard from him in almost a month when he called me drunk to hang out, i didn't go over there or anything because i didn't want to be just a random hook up. NOw i don't talk to him and am pregnant but need to tel him but not sure how. DOes anyone have any suggestions?
2007-01-22 20:25:44 · 11 answers · asked by num1cutie4u 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well he sounds like a loser. He probably wont care that your pregnant. So just tell him and get it over with.
2007-01-22 20:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by gordonr83 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Before you talk to him, you need to decide how involved you want him to be. Since you don't know him well, your situation might be different than that of a dating couple. If you want him to be there for you at every doctor appointment, make sure he knows that. If you're happy with him playing a more silent roll, let him know.
I would call him and ask if you can get together. Try to avoid "buttering him up" before hand - don't buy him a gift or a special meal. Just sit him down and tell him that you are going to have a baby and you're sure it's his. I sincerely hope that he will be supportive, but if he's an irresponsible person, there's nothing that you can do to change that, unfortunately.
If you don't know him that well, you might also consider waiting until you are about 12 weeks to tell him. At that stage, you are much less likely to have a miscarriage.
I wish you the best of luck. Make sure you seek counseling if you need it, and find a supportive partner, whether it be a friend, family member, or boyfriend.
2007-01-23 04:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Smurfy Keeps Going and Going 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First, decide what you want to do. Do you want the baby, do you want an abortion, do you want to put it up for adoption. Make the decision with out the idea of him being in your life, this is important because in all reality the chance he is gonna freak on you, is much higher than the chance he won't.
Ask him out to a cup of coffee and flat out tell him but bring proof from the doctor with you. If you are already 8 weeks and had your first ultrasound, thats great, bring that.
I won;t tell you that he will be excited, most guys, married or not, freak out at having kids. There are rare exceptions though, that get excited. He will ask you what you want to do with the baby, he may insist that you get rid of it. This is why you have to be decided. Flat out tell him your plans and ask him what he can do for you. Give him the option. If he says he doesn't know, ask him if he wants to think about it or would like some suggestions. Be realistic if he says suggestions. Don't ask for a relationship or marriage, you don't really know each other so most likely that won't happen right away. Suggest something realistic like; "I plan on keeping it, so I was hoping you would be in the babies life and we can learn to be friends (this does not mean you are saying you will never date each other, it is saying you want to build the ground work of a good relationship but be realistic with yourself and don't secretly hope to be swept off your feet, it didn't go so well on his end, thats why he didn't call you again remember) If you plan to abort tell him; "I plan on having an abortion on this day and time and would like you to drive me" Etc. Etc.
Everyone woman when she is pregnant has to deal with bad emotions. Think with your mind when talking to him, not your heart. You two will be able to communicate better that way.
If he freaks out all the way and jets, give him a couple day 2-3 and then call and leave a message. Do not hound him, he will grow to avoid you and the baby.
If you are going to keep the child, your job now is to supply the baby with an father, not yourself with a husband, keep that in mind because over time it will be hard not to do. Thats jus the way hormones work.
Remember to do it in a public place, quietly. It keeps emotions under control, for you and him. This is the key. Do not tell him over the phone unless there really really is no other way. If he has a girlfriend now and won't have coffe with you with out the girlfriend, invite her also. Take a friend with you because in this situation it may be harder, male sure your friend is very controled and direct, that way she can tell him if you get to scared. If he is alone, go alone. Make the odds fais for both of you, don't try to one up him, this isn't checkers.
Good luck, and congrats.
2007-01-23 04:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by Chasity 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Chasity answered this question so perfectly, that there isn't anything I can add except good luck. Keep your head up!
2007-01-23 04:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by aprildin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEs dear, Ask him directly if he is interested in the relationship or not & i Think he is not, drag him to the court of justice or do the justice yourself.
2007-01-23 04:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by satish k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a suggestion - Call Maury.
2007-01-23 04:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him, if you know for sure this is his baby. But I am sure it's gonna freak him out.
2007-01-23 04:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lilian 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
JUST TELL HIM.
YOU CAN'T BE THAT SHY, YOU LET HIM BANG IT THE FIRST NIGHT!! I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR UNBORN CHILD.
THINK PEOPLE BEFORE YOU HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX WITH STRANGERS. YOU COULD'VE GOTTEN MORE THAN PREGNANT!!
2007-01-23 04:45:08 · answer #8 · answered by STEVE15 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
A VERY SAD SITUATION!
SORRY NO SUGGESTIONS, I'VE NEVER DONE ANYTHING SO PATHETIC.
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU.
2007-01-23 04:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by TINY822 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
stop having unprotected one-night stands and having illegitimate babies that we taxpayers have to pay for!
2007-01-23 04:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by вℓαмє_¢αиα∂α 4 · 3⤊ 4⤋