Since my husband's mom passed away 2 months ago, he's been shutting me out. What do I do, because it's starting to affect our marriage. We never fought before, but now it's at least twice a week!
2007-01-22 19:41:47 · 17 answers · asked by Charmaine V 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As his mother has passed away so he is feeling armless and insecure.Might be he may having any confusion over this issue. So better is to communicate on this matter to get sensible answer and the solution too.As your husband was attached to her so after her death he got shocked and not able to finding the appropriate reason to handle you and himself .give him support of your love and sympathy.give comfort of emotion and take him out for to get better time if not possible then make him sure that you are always with him in every ways.
2007-01-22 20:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by masti 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I think that the only way to deal with this problem is to give him space. I understand he is sad about his mother, but he also needs to understand that his behavior hurt your feelings and relatoinship with him. I say give him a taste of his own medicince and shut him out for a few days. Arrange to have a girl's night out and do not tell him in advance. Just go and have fun with your friends and maybe go to a comedy show, too. You can basically do anything fun with your friends or by yourself, but the point is to get away from him for a few hours and give him space. I think that if you just give him space for a couple of months and not really talk to him it will snap him out of it. Eventually he will notice that you are not telling him what you are up to or what you are doing and he will come back to reality and start focusing on the marriage more. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-22 19:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This may be an extremely difficult time for him. Everyone handles a loss differently. Men usually keep a lot of that inside because they dont want to appear weak. Two months is not a long time and certainly not long enough to go back to normal life. Females generally talk about it and seek comfort from their partner...men dont. I would try my best to avoid arguments, do nice things for him and support him. If he is shutting you out it is because he is greeving...let him deal with this in his best way and he will eventually come back to you.
2007-01-22 19:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is still in a grieving stage. For some people it takes longer to grasp, especially when a close family member or friend dies. I would suggest to be patient. Believe me, I know how difficult it is for both of you. I have had it happen to me many times. Maybe he should go to bereavement counseling with others who are trying to cope with their emotions. He probably has many thoughts, good and bad, bottled up inside. Maybe try to gently ask him if there is anything you can do to help him cope.
2007-01-22 19:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by gone 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My wife lost her mom almost 2 years ago, and her dad just over a year ago, and has shut me out ever since. It is definitely a problem, she goes to counseling (me too) and is being treated for depression with drugs, but it has done little good. Please try some counseling, even if he won't go. Maybe they can help, even though it didn't work here. Good luck.
2007-01-22 19:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Husband's questionable female friend?
2016-10-17 09:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him, it's hard to lose a love one especially ones mother. Don't put pressure on him or keep asking him to open up, give him his space and time to cope and mourn his mother. I'm sure he doesn't mean to shut you out but when coping he will need his space and time to accept his lost. don't nag him or make him feel bad or like he's neglecting you for that will make you look selfish to him and insensitive to his lost and needs.
2007-01-22 19:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by angel h 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Give the dude some space. And just be sweet and use that womanly body and mind to, *gently*, over-come him. Trust me, that does a dude no harm and it will give him emotional support, whcih he needs now, and it will be a sweet way of doing it.
You get what you want and it won't do him any harm.
2007-01-22 19:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by Put_ya_mitts_up 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about marriage counseling and if he declines go by yourself. Its past the point where you can fix it on your own, you need professional help. If he still refuses to work things out its time to leave him. You cant stay in a marriage if your partner res fuses help and makes you unhappy
2007-01-22 20:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Husband shutting me out!?
2014-12-18 17:20:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋