So, this guy I have become friends with is a mystery to me. I reckon he is bisexual as he has said that he would kiss a guy if he was hot, sexy...whatever. The thing is he only ever hits on girls when we are out somewhere, and only ever talks about girls (he acts macho). However, when he has a little bit to drink, and the inhibitions are down...he comes up to me and puts his arm around my waist and just holds me like that. str8? bi? gay? a flirt? what you guys think?
2007-01-22 19:19:20 · 5 answers · asked by SAguy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
probably just a straight flirt who likes physical contact. regardless of societal opinion, there is nothing wrong with physical contact between men...it does not mean they are gay. if you are interested in this guy sexually then you should do some exploring. but if you value the friendship then you will want to be careful. maybe you should lean in for a kiss the next time he puts his arm around you:-)
2007-01-22 20:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by Spyder 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question. Unfortunately this is not a gender base situation. Sometime people don't know their sexual preference and sometimes they do.
So the answer is in risk. How much are you willing to risk about you to find out about him. Most people do not want to risk, so they listen until the hear the right words.
A ship is safe in a harbor, but that is not what ships are built for. So if you decide to sail, ask him about his preferences, for example, who he is dating and have dated.
Good luck.
2007-01-22 19:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by J. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just evil. Someone told me being drunk is not an excuse for behavior or his/her own actions... when you are drunk you tend to do things that you really want to do.
Honestly, I would say to respect yourself. When he is sober, ask him if he notices that he places his arms around your waist; ask him if this is intentional and he wants to be more than friends. If either answer is no, tell him that you are not comfortable with him behaving this way sober or drunk -- that should put him in his place.
2007-01-22 19:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous Answers 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he puts his arms around your waist and holds you he probably has a secret crush on you....Lucky You.... I think that you should ask him outright.....go for it... {;o)
2007-01-22 19:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by PCee 49 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion,hes not gay or bi.Hes just a drunken man looking for sex.
2007-01-22 20:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by exagreat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋