When I was nine... (now 20) I had 125 strokes to left temporal lobe... I have been very rezealant, but I cannot seem to make or keep any friends... I really need friends... please someone help me learn how to make friends again?
2007-01-22 19:13:15 · 9 answers · asked by princess_lew86 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
no - its not a weird question, but more so one that should be directed to a neurologist or a neuropsychologist. That area of the brain has to do with emotion, and language, and things of that nature. I'm also guessing that you have pretty poor impulse control given those factors, you may be pushing people away with your behavior, and not have the ability to detect why. Perhaps you interupt people why they are speaking, or lose your temper easily? I'm only guessing of course, but this is something that is most likely going to require the advice of a proffessional trained in diagnosing these problems. (you get the refferal from an MD)
I had similar problems after a closed head injury. I couldnt keep focused on a subject long enough - and so I changed topics a lot, and it made people think that I was self-absorbed and didnt care about what they had to say. I lost a lot of people in my life too - then I went to a neuro-rehab and found out what the real problem was and learned how to recognize and improve the problem.
Good Luck
2007-01-22 19:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you Princess. Are you able to get out and about? Try going to church. Many people make good Friends there. Why not form a pen pal letter and send it to collages in your area? Have your reply mailed to a box number for safety's sake. Seek friends on the Internet. Do this very carefully and if you do want to meet some one never go alone. Join a dating club. Take out an ad in the local paper. Join a club - pottery, painting etc.
2007-01-23 03:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to make your first impression be that you are someone another person would like to be friends with: friendly, good listener, good sense of humor, kind, thoughtful, well-mannered.
At the same time, be yourself. It's hard to maintain a friendship that is built on a fake persona. Good luck
2007-01-23 03:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Loren V 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
20 is still deceptively an underachiever plight and has few areas that don't need a mentor of skills to bring your strengths into focus-from now on laugh and be happy when you remember that the fourth word in your question was....
2007-01-23 03:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile and be nice to people who you'd like to be your friends. Invite them out or just start up a conversation and make sure you're a good listener.
2007-01-23 03:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by Gist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once read a quote: 'the best way to have a best friend is to be a best friend' and I think that's true. Put all your best qualities forward, and people will soon see them and be drawn to them. All the best.
2007-01-23 03:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can offer is to ask someone about themselves or something they're in to, and listen to them talk. Ask questions so you seam interested and remember as best you can what they say. They will love you for it.
2007-01-23 03:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff Scheidt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think your inability to make/keep friends has something to do with what happened to you when you were nine? More details please.
2007-01-23 03:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by squealy68 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
be nice, funny, outgoing and thats pretty much all
2007-01-23 03:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋