I am a lazy,unemployed man.I just can't seem to get motivated.Can any1 who's turned their life around help me?

Answer 1

My baseball coach went from being a drug addict to a murderer... then in prison turned himself around, became one of the best tennis players in the state (he was actually let out for tournouments) to being a drug councelor that has helped scores of people get over addictions.

Answer 2

You can only help yourself. If you're not willing to change or you don't really want to then unfortunately you won't. Don't you feel sad & depressed though? If I was lazy & unemployed & couldn't be bothered to do anything then I would be a very unhappy person. Do you really want to look back when you're older & feel like you've acheived nothing & wish that you'd done more & not been so lazy? Your motivation HAS to come from within, no one else can do it for you. It's all about wanting to better yourself. If you're the way you are because you're depressed then see a counsellor & try to get to the root of the problem. Why don't you start off by getting a part time job instead of a full time job, doing something you'll enjoy or are interested in. You could even start off by volunteering 1 or 2 days a week for charities or for mental health organisations. I think you'll find that helping other people is very rewarding & may help you to help yourself.

Answer 3

I agree with 'upallnigh's answer about getting fit above. You can do free stuff like jogging and walking, or if you do have a bit of cash to spare maybe start a kick boxing group or something once a week where you can meet people. Also, a great way to build up your motivation and gain some employment skills is to volunteer. Start by one day a week and gradually build up. If you are in the UK try this http://www.do-it.org.uk/youthnet/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=445.

Even though its only volunteering though make a good impression when you contact them as though it were a job interview. Local job centres might be able to help you with this. You might be better motivated starting with volunteering in an area you are interested in than starting a paid job doing something boring.

Try and develop yourself a weekly timetable, say monday jogging and housework, tuesday supermarket, wednesday volunteering, thursday kickboxing etc. You need to slowly build up a routine and set small achievable goals. Good luck and you have made the first step by wanting to change.

PS in your timetable make sure it involves everyday: having a shower and making an effort with your appearence then leaving the house. This will make you more motivated everyday, I know from experience of being a student that not having a shower in a morning and chucking trackie bottoms on does nothing for motivation!

Answer 4

Perhaps you are bored with everyday mundane life and you are looking for some challanges in your life that you don't have. Why not pack your bags and move to some weird country for a while, where you really have to make an effort to survive. Not only it will challange you but you might learn some valuable skills/ideas that you can then apply here when you get back from your travels. Broadening your horizon is a good thing and a travel of this kind may challange you beyond your limits. Have fun!

Answer 5

Good on you for recognising and admitting the problem in the first place - it's already half way solved. I turned my life around by making an admission, then a decision, followed by action! The best thing to do is to enlist in the support of family and friends, as they will help you out. Also list all the things you really enjoy and go after them. Even if you find a part-time job to begin with, you never know where it may lead. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

Easy, just realise that when your hard working colleagues are living in smart houses, running businesses, driving new cars, wearing beautiful clothes, having holidays in India,USA, etc. you will be selling the Big Issue (if you are lucky) and living with a dog in a cardboard box. Nobody will want to know you. Grit your teeth, get a job, try to do it better than anybody else, try to learn something new every day - you may become a human being instead of a despicable scrounging nobody.

Answer 7

Yeah man i can..
Just go thru this..
Devotion means the Beloved comes first. And, the Beloved
can only be the divine. The divine is also called God.
God has no form and all forms are His. When you see God
in everyone eyes you are free. The Beyond is unknowable
by any human. God is known through this creation.
And non-existence is the source of life. God is all that
exists in all realms. You are not. Your separation is a play
of God. Soon you will remember and laugh!..

N visit www.oshoworld.com
and then visit meditation..
You will literally find a drastic change in yourself..
SMR..

Answer 8

properly, as an older,expierienced human being. I did a similar element - i become 18 with my first although,yet I had one at 18 and one at 19. Your no longer screwed - dont pay interest to human beings that permit you keep in mind that. you probably did something and didnt understand the consaquences once you probably did it..Your existence is going to revolve round those children till they're a lot a lot older. Your fortunate you've father and mom that are prepared to assist,even though it doesnt sound like dad is interior the picture too a lot. communicate with your father and mom,,,bypass get some couceling to assist.. Your father and mom ought to keep in mind that you're youthful and nonetheless want to have some freedome..tell your father and mom you want to bypass lower back to college or a minimum of get your GED,and search for a job too.even if if its purely at Mcdonals. it grant you with your time remote from the youngsters,and typically quickly nutrients resturants have youthful ones round your age operating fro them,so so you might get some socialising in with friends. in case you probably did that - perhaps you may make some associates - youd have a touch money on your pocket - in case you and your associates had to bypass out for some hours - then grant your father and mom some income change for babysitting the little more suitable. this may grant you with some freedome so your no longer trapped with the youngsters each and each of the time,and it would help placed your existence on the right music too. Having a councelor would grant you with an interloper that ought to pay interest to you and grant you with thoughts and recommendations and perhaps help your self esteem. it ought to take some months to get all of it mutually,yet purely keep operating at it,and keep loving those little ones - it is going to all come mutually for you good success

Answer 9

go to the gym,
tryboxing where you beat up guys a lot smaller then you for your confidence.

then get into a routine of excercising, where you will soon realise that you cant win every fight and sometimes people will beat you bad but you can always give it your best shot and you can continually improve on yourself and get better.

once you are excersing and in a regular routine, make it a priority to do some study or reading of the job section of newspapers on the way to and from the gym. this will easily become a habit, and when you talk to other men in your situation at the gym, you will get ideas and advice on how to start back up.

good luck.

Answer 10

Yes, it is easy:

Remember that you will die and you will become wise.



Comment:
Any given day could be your last, any given year. So there is nothing you've got left to do ? Not a single dream ? Not a single hope ?
That is not possible.
Focus on the Proverb above as it says:

Remeber that you will die - remember that at all times, if you forget, remember again

AND

you will become wise -
in other words you will neither be bored, nor lazy, nor unemployed.

Answer 11

I had a major change in life where I had to change EVERYTHING.
and this is what I learned....
with somethings its best to make small changes. the reason why most people fail at making major changes, is that it seems like too huge of an obstacle.
Set your goals into more bite-size pieces.

Another thing that I found helped - I came to believe that I was the only one who was going to do it for me. No one was gonna knock at my door and fix life for me - if my life sucked, it was the tradgedy I had to live, but most folks werent going to care enough about it to do much more that shake their head and say "tsk, he had so much potential"

You might wanna start doing some writing - stuff like this...
what in life do I want that I dont have now? what would change if I were to make that something of my life? how would those changes be scary, and how would I cope with those changes?
Do I think I'm not smart enough -- or lacking the skills needed? is there something I can do about that?

I found I was afraid of having to be responsible. That there was a part of me that believed I wasnt worthy of having good things - because I never really had good things happen in my life -- that good things never happened in my life because I never tried - or when I tried it was a "half-a*ssed" attempt if I were honest with myself. I found that I was afraid of not looking smart enough, or competant enough. Those were all things I imagined! 90% of what we fear exists only between our ears!

Get out of your own way - and good luck!