trying to concieve, but no luck! any suggestions?

Question

my husband and i have been trying to concieve for six months. we allready have a 2 year old daughter, and it only took one try with her! so i know its possible for us to have more...how do i calculate ovulation? i'm pretty sure i'm doing it right...why isnt it working? and are there any methods used to try for a boy, like having him take warm baths or different positions or days of the month? if nothing happens in a couple more months should i go see a doctor? any input is appreciated, thanks!

Answer 1

If you have a regular 28-35 day menstruation cycle, remember that your most fertile day is the 17th day counted from the 1st day of your menstruation. "Most fertile day" means that your are most susceptible of getting pregnant on this day because your ovary has already expelled an egg cell that is waiting to be fertilized by a sperm cell. Now, since you are planning to have a boy, doctors would advise that you have sex with your mate on the 17th day onwards because male sperm cells has a shorter life span than female sperm cell. Male sperm cell has a life span of not more than 24 hours as compared to a female sperm cell which has a life span of up to 48 hours. If egg cell is not yet released by the ovary, male sperm cell cannot wait that long and will soon die. Therefore, it is necessary to wait for your "most fertile day" when the egg is already released before having sex. Try visiting the website. You can learn a lot regarding ovulation, trying to get pregnant, etc.

However, if your problem is not getting pregnant. I guess you and your partner should see your ob-gyne and let her/hinm check whats wrong. I have a friend who had the same problem what she did was she let her ob-gyne met with 2 other doctors - an immunologist doctor and another doctor that specializes on infertility problems. She and her husband found out the real problem and had it treated...after few months of medication she got pregnant and she is now a mother of a bouncing baby boy! :)

Answer 2

i think the sex before ovulation might have been too far away from your ovulation date and although sperm can live up to 7 days, the average is about 3 days. also, having sex more than once a day could decrease your chances of getting pregnant because it takes about 2 days for sperm to mature so if they don't get that time, they won't be strong enough to get to the egg (which is why people always say to have sex only every other day). my suggestion would be to continue to have sex every other day or even every three days throughout your cycle, and to pay attention to what your body does when it's time for ovulation because some women can feel cramping when they ovulate, meaning that they can pinpoint exactly when the egg is released.

Answer 3

okay this is gross-
the texture is clear, gooey gummy, that's when you are ready, have "together time" often. Remember only one ovary per month they trade off, so one may be a good one and the other a dud, so pay attention to you body. You body tempature rises that morning.
Take a basil temp every morning.


We tried for years- an old wise woman told me.
Stop trying and have fun everyday, not an appointment.
WE actually went on vacation and several parties in hometown and sure enough- she was right. It came as a shock to us.

Answer 4

yes ,perhaps a check up wouldn't hurt anything to check for scar tissue, etc. something unusual perhaps, generally tho,
speaking, relaxing and enjoying the child you have. the key for me seemed always to be,when i was super busy and really active and focusing on other issue's , up crops a new arrival. just
when i was really in a schedule that was comfortable,i would turn up pregnant, that always turned over my apple cart, so to speak.lol, so, when your health is fit, you should just relax and again let mother nature takes it's natural course of things.
there's alot to be said about feeling comfortable with the way things are in your life and pregnancy's.now if you were trying to avoid the issue of getting pregnant , you'd turn up pregnant. life seems to have it's little hang nails so to speak.so i wouldn't fret.
just check to make sure something unusual isn't occurring

Answer 5

i have a 21 yr old son and a 1 yr old,i was on the atkins diet when i caught with my 1 yr old as atkins has quite an effect on the body,maybe cut out carbs it might do the trick.good luck x

Answer 6

have sex every night, and morning if you can, and dont calculate anything. warm baths i dont think are good for him, stop trying so hard, all that worry is killing things, just live and love and stop trying to force things.

Answer 7

How to get Pregnant Faster – Top Ten Tips
1. Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.
2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.