I have signed the recently divorce paper because relationship has broken down due to communication problems and she is bent on leaving me and start a new life. I have left the house with her so that she can start "afresh" easier. Although we are divorced, I still feel attached to her and could not take her image off my mind. She blamed me for not solving the problems 1 year back and still bear the resentment of being ignored. I have no clue of what to do and the guilt feeling is so strong that mentally I kept blaming myself for letting it happened. I knew she would be leading a single life which is tought and lonely. It made me feel that I had sinned more than anyone on earth. How can I live with this feeling but only to reconcile with her?
2007-01-22 18:27:53 · 8 answers · asked by hlchua88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are lucky don't look back, run away!!
Just kidding, do you have kids and if you do pls go back. If don't start to date her out again and try to win her back.
My advise is to take it easy and start to date other ladies and probably you may find your ex wife more attractive or you may fall in love with someone. Good luck in both ways
2007-01-22 18:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Cakebread 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No point brooding and regretting now. She must have thought through it a lot and had come to the decision of divorce so let it be the past but learn from yr mistakes. You can still be friends with her and if the feelings rekindle you can try wooing her again and see where it leads you. Its too early to try and jum back into remarrying cos the problem hasn't been solved.
2007-01-26 01:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Pauline G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reconciling is nice, yet keep your ex at arm's length. i imagine your son did the right element through no longer inviting her to his wedding ceremony. you're daughter has a level, yet issues purely isn't a similar. depending on the thoughts you presented, i doesn't propose remarrying your ex. Why would she pay interest to her associates instead of wondering about her children and her 25 years of marriage? once you've made it that far, you've been by ability of plenty and also you may get by ability of so a lot more suitable. Your ex gave up on her finished family members. i counsel staying in contact, yet purely being polite friends.
2016-10-15 23:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by muniz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling. It's not uncommon for people to have a difficult time knowing how to communicate with their spouses. It's obvious you care... MANY men really do care.. but they don't have a clue how to communicate that caring to their women, and how to LISTEN to what she's saying.. what her needs are.. when she tells you. Then again, some men hear what we say and do nothing with it.
Bottom line? You can't win her back. It sounds like she's not interested in that right now. You can only learn from this and improve your ability to "do" relationships. If she sees you care enough to get some help (through counseling), she might want to try again.. Of course, that would be a bonus.
2007-01-22 18:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe even you reconciled with your ex wife, the same old problem still exist. Even bpth of you reconciled, the feeling is very much different. I rather you amde a clean break rather than let this sort of thing keeps on dragging
2007-01-22 22:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi this is one thing you have to do from your heart where you feel bad its where love comes from , its just like meeting a lady friend all over again to win a hart love and trust you need to do the little things right show her in time that you have changed really of you still love her care want her then for her love you need to change for you first the way you talk speek care for her remmber this wont be hard so you really need to soul search first look at life love and her in a new diffrent light so your in with a chance to win her back, be open caring and lisin to her that will help because its her love trust your trying to win back, go for it .
2007-01-22 18:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One shud not bother much about the past except to learn lessons. Forget about her unless u r repenting about having left lot of ur property with her.
2007-01-22 19:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, let her go...she wants out
2007-01-22 18:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by nonphysical 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋