We have been seperated for 3 years and things are not getting better.We have a 6 yo child. We live appart. We are only children and quite compulsive. Lately I started dating somebody, want to be honest and tell my wife that but am predicting major explosion. It is a dog on a hay stack sindrom. Even she doesn't wanrt to be with me, she would not want me to have anybody else. I guess not before she finds somebody. How should I tell her to avoid problems? Is it possible at all?
2007-01-22 18:00:12 · 10 answers · asked by illocution 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't tell her if you have somebody get divorce paper first to avoid the problem.. so goodluck
2007-01-22 18:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by sylvaniaS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I have been seperated from My wife for 5 years now,and let me tell You ,depending on the severity of telling Her, and keeping it a secret so to speak, I say tell her , because it will do no good to wait and ponder what to do,thank goodness your child is so young also,Time is of the essence,do not wait until it tears You up inside, If you feel she will be threatened by the outcome towards you telling her i suggest doing it in a "public' place, or wherever is possibly comfortable for you,Seperation means just that ,certain laws may say You are committing adultry,(not a lawyer, so i dont know for sure) But, i would suggest you do the right thing for you,yourself and your dating partner.Break the ice,and just tell her.The worse thing you can do is not look into yourself and know how you feel inside about the entire situation.. good luck and stay safe!
2007-01-22 18:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by electric_blue_eyed_man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend just went through this a little over a yr ago. He had been seperated for about 2 yrs and when he told her that we were together, SHE FLIPPED! She tried to make it where i couldnt be around his son, sayin that it wasnt good on their son(who was 5) and ended up tellin their son that I made daddy leave, that he never has to listen to me(eventhough we live together now) and I can never "discipline" him, and if i do to tell her IMMEDIATLY and she will have me locked up. Its been really hard for me, because their son pretty much hates me, he hits me, bites me, scratches, etc. So dont worry about her as much as you worry about what she tells your child about your new partner. Just try to make the child realize that you and mommy are always gonna be there, and make sure that your partner realizes its gonna be dificult for the child for a little while. And please, make sure your wife doesnt fill the child head with BS. That is the hardest thing to take care of, Mommy told me this and Daddy tells me that. Good Luck
2007-01-22 18:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by daddyzgrl4u05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck does "dog on a hay stack sindrom" mean.? I have NEVER heard the saying before. It sounds cool and I may use it.
2007-01-22 18:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get divorced- and it is not her business- unless you involve the children- or get counseling and patch things up- She may not be happy or thrilled either way- if you stay apart- do what will make the least waves- you know her best-D
2007-01-22 18:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a time to sit down with her.
Explain to her that you have something important to share with her since you have when a separate way since 3 years back.
You have found a life partner that make you deicide to settle down. And it is important to you that she will bless your new partner and you.
She will feel respected and will respect your deicision too.
2007-01-22 18:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by David Fhu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explosion is right.I think you should keep it quiet for as long as you can.I don't see anything good come out of it.Either she'll take it out on your child,or make things difficult for you.So silence is golden.
2007-01-22 18:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? Divorce papers would help! If you've been apart for 3 years already, I doubt she will even care.
2007-01-22 18:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by aprildin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really isn't any of her business and unless you cut the cord you and your wife have, you're not going to be seeing your new girlfriend for long.
2007-01-22 18:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let her know.be cool about it . she may not let you see your child. got to keep it cool
2007-01-22 18:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋