PA...Parental Rights, and the new girlfriend??

Question

My ex (unmarried) and I recently split up and the very next day, he moved in with a new girlfriend (& her Mom). He now has his own place, and I am currently working on partial custody with him, but I am a bit bitter towards this new girlfriend he has, as she is 10 years younger than he is, and I consider her a "homewrecker". She has called me every name in the book and has put down my parenting (based on what my ex has told her) without even knowing how I live and raise my son. If I want my son's father to have partial custody--can I add a speculation that she NOT be around during that time period my son is staying? I'm worried about being bad-mouthed in front of my son, and frankly, don't think the relationship is that serious yet. They've only been together 2 months. I have a feeling my answer will be..."get an attorney" but I was wondering if anybody else has gone through this and has any suggestions. My son's father and I are civil to each other until we bring her into a convo.

Answer 1

This is going to be the hardest thing you will ever do, but you need to do what is best for the child.

Unless she is putting down your or parenting in front of your son, you likely have no legal leg to stand on as far a limiting visitation to exclude her, even with a good attorney.

If she is and you have a good attorney, you get a piece of paper saying she is to have limited contact, but unless you have money to burn, you can spend a fortune in attorney fees and Court Costs and still what will likely happen even it she is a total horror to the child and barred from seeing the child by the Court, Supervised Visitation for a very brief period of time with your ex, which, in all likelihood, he will decide is too much of a hassle and leave your poor son waiting with the Supervised Visitor again and again, damaging his self worth as "his Daddy Doesn't Love Him" until you go back to Court (again, with about another $1,000 in attorney fees) to try to terminate even the supervised visits.

If you and your ex are now civil, as hard as it is, remain civil for the child's sake and be assertive, without nasty, that is makes you uncomfortable to be around his ex and his ex being around our son and ask him as a favor, to please try to reduce the exposure both you and your son have to have with his new girlfriend for the sake of your son. If you take the high road and lead by example, he is likely to respect you more and be more willing to comply with your request.

Answer 2

Sorry to assert yet i think of you deserve a pair of knees to the balls!!! I mean u cheated on her for cryin out loud!!! and that i thinks you're able to desire to easily go and apologise and if u truly cared approximately her u wouldnt have completed it.