My ex lied to me and I caught him. It was bad enough to be extremely angry at him. What he did has caused us to not speak and I am so angry. He did apologize, but I feel he was sorry he got caught. I have left him alot of messages yelling, crying and yelling again. I know its sounds horrible, but beleive me, he deserves every word I said to him. We never ever fought almost two years we were together. Its been some time and I still call him to yell at him. I cant let it gooo!!! It bothers me alot, yet he avoids me. Do you think what I h ave said is making him think about it. I feel he is ashamed now?? Do you think it hasgotten to him? He has defintly gotten to me and I will admit it. He hurt me very badly!! As much as I should let it go and me doing this is him getting the best of me, can what I have sid to him gotten to him??? I want him to understand its not right what he did.
2007-01-22 17:49:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
he is probably annoyed by now of u. it will hurt him more for him to know u have moved on and no longer feel like u need him in your life.
delete his number out of your phone or u will just keep being mad at him dont waste your feelings on him find someone who really cares and wont lie to u in the first place. u are hurting yourself more than him
2007-01-22 18:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why you're into all the psychoanalysis since he's your ex. Why get yourself so worked up? As much as you say you've screamed at him.... it just pushes people away. Screaming and behaving like a 10 year old won't resolve anything. I realize you're hurt but, it doesn't do any good to continue to scream at and EX! Do what you have to do to get over the hurt privately. You've made your point to him. Withdraw yourself from him and take some time to heal before you do more damage..... especially since he's an EX!!
2007-01-23 01:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by squealy68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what someone does to you and how hurtful it is, you always have a CHOICE on how to react to it. No person can hurt you unless you ALLOW them to make you feel hurt. You can CHOOSE to not feel the hurt. You can CHOOSE to create your own happiness or you can CHOOSE to allow yourself to wallow in self pity. Self pity is merely and excuse to do nothing. you need to CHOOSE whether you want to move on or not. It appears you have currently made the CHOICE to CHOOSE to be down in the dumps. We ALL fall hard sometime or another, and it is up to YOU to CHOOSE to stand up and dust yourself off and to move on to bigger and better things in your life. You probably thinking - ya ya... easier said than done... and guess what? it IS easy. It's a mind set that you need to get into. CHOOSE LIFE - CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY - CHOOSE to close this chapter in your life. If you continue reading the same chapter in a book over and over, how are you ever going to finish it? Good Luck and be STRONG!
2007-01-23 02:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Bite Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself: what do you gain by yelling over and over again? You get more points in the big struggle of life or something? Let it go ... it's been several days now ....... we all make mistakes. You will too someday.
2007-01-23 01:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by Meta Irie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously he is having seconds thought about the relationship. he saw a side of you that really made him back off. he thinks its over between you. stop calling him and let him come to you if he does not come back it means he dont give a **** about what you have to say and how u feel. dont give him the upper hand
2007-01-23 01:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by minispears05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he isn't getting the messege by now, then he never will. You have to use some self controll and not call this @ss anymore. By now, he is probably just laughing it off!
2007-01-23 01:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by hol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sure he knows by now but quit calling him and yelling at him if you keep bringin up the past it will only make matters worse LET IT GO
2007-01-23 01:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the only you will know is to talk to him face to face put anger aside and comincate...that way you can move on or forward with or with out him...and whatever his done to you...you would be better off if you find someone else and also learn from this...you deserve better...
2007-01-23 01:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by luciouskisss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what he did but that is not the way how you can make him to understand.
For now make him to miss you some, if you love him and want to keep him you will have to talk to him seriously about that, but later, when you get over that.
2007-01-23 01:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by Nora la exploradora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself this question.
Will your life change if he is unhappy???
Will your life change if you live your life to make him unhappy?
Will your life be better if you move on and be happy?
Beleive me you will not be happy no matter what happens to him.
2007-01-23 01:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by flower_from_the_heavens 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋