not willing to have sex then what are the best options to keep yourself satisfied?
2007-01-22 17:41:01 · 15 answers · asked by satish k 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
im a pregnant wife and most of the time i'd rather not have sex but when my husband does this i'm more willing
1. He runs me a hot bubble bath and washes my back and helps me out the tub.
2. Then he rubs my down with warm oil massaging my back and any other sore tired places
3. Then some patient foreplay and the rest goes gentle and slow
I know it's a lot of work but I'm always grateful that he does so much to get me ready for sex. Because honestly with taking care of the house and being 6 months pregnant and having 4 yr old and a 7yr old I don't even realize how badly I needed the sex until after the orgasm. I thank him for knowing my needs better than I know them
2007-01-22 18:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The first thing you need to do it talk with your wife. Don't spew a 30-minute diatribe about how you need sex, ask her how she is feeling (don't bring up sex yet). Ask her if she is a little scared about the baby too (put the too in, I know you are a big brave guy but it will help her open up). Keep talking with your wife about all the things going through her mind (yes this will be an all-night, no TV thing but it will be worth it, I promise) women start feeling the responsibilty very strongly right away, it is really overwhelming. She is probably worried about money, and time, and work, and whether she will know what to do, and if she will do it well, and a whole bunch more. She may be feeling tired, sick, achy, fat, ugly,special, happy, full, and again, a whole bunch more. She may get to it on her own but she may not. After she has told you how she feels and what she is worrying about, DON'T TRY TO FIX THE WORRY, just share it with her. Tell her things like, "We'll get through it. We can do it. We will tackle each of those things together when its time." things that show you are with her. Then you can broach the subject of sex. Say, "You are so beautiful and the pregnancy just makes you glow (dude, lie if you must) I really want to be close to you but you really don't seem to want to. May I ask why?" HERE'S THE IMPORTANT PART!!! The next words out of her mouth are going to tell you EXACTLY how to get some. Her answer will most likely be that she either is afraid of hurting herself or the baby, she feels big and ugly, she feels so sick and icky or she just doesn't feel like it. Don't not tell her "that's just silly", or "No it won't hurt the baby" saying stuff like this will make her feel stupid, not respected. If she says she feels ugly, act like she told you she is purple, "God No, I have never been more attracted to you!" if she is sick with morning sickness or just feeling drained and awful, tell her, "it's okay, I understand that, can I rub your back and be close to you tonight? (you are asking to cuddle, not to make love, and follow through by not trying to have sex, it will be a little frustrating but trust me, that one will win you all kinds of brownie points)" If she says she just doesn't feel like it, its a hormone thing and there's in nothing either of you can do. Go back to "Can I rub your back and be close to you tonight..."
It sounds like a lot of work and a lot of silliness, to you. But I have been pregnant twice and am 17 weeks along with my third baby and if this doesn't get you laid tonight, you will be getting plenty soon. This is what I want to hear.
Good luck
2007-01-22 18:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't nag her, beg, or whine to her about sex. That's gonna annoy her and stress her out. Just take care of your buddy with some lotion and wait till she has a day where she wants to have sex. Cause when she wanna have sex it'll be worth the wait. She might even just blow ya mind you'll never know till it happens.
2007-01-22 17:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Mama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her what she expects you to do. Maybe if she realizes how big of an issue it is for you, she might be willing to give it up...? If not, I'd say do it yourself, and if you need "visual aids" tell her that, and that you are not willing to give those up if she isn't willing to give what she has up... lol. Just don't cheat on her and break her heart (and possibly your home/family)
2007-01-22 17:45:20 · answer #4 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Private bathroom trips, in every bathroom till the kid is born and at least 6 week after. Just like you did when you were a young man.
2007-01-22 18:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My fiancee stopped having sex with me around 7 months. He keeps masturbating and there is always oral sex
2007-01-22 19:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do yourself... she will most likely go through moods where she has a higher sex drive then you... however, get used to it, cause once that baby is born, you could be waiting a month or longer, depending on if she gets stiches down there or not
2007-01-22 17:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My girlfriend is German and she gave birth in Hamburg 4 years ago.Answer to the second question:if you mean that you have sexual desire but will not have sex,maybe get chemically castrated.
2007-01-22 17:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by nicko 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depending on the woman her sex drive can go up or it can go down. if you really have to have sexual release then do yourself if she isn't willing. and talk to her she may be willing to do other things than intercourse.
2007-01-22 17:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mary Lou 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grab some lotion and head to the bathroom.
2007-01-22 17:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by Kandy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋