Do you think this is fair?

Question

I have a 3.8 GPA at school, I'm 14 years old. I am not allowed to have a cell phone during the week, when I have school, my parents give it back to me on weekends. The home line is somehow LOCKED by my parents so no one can call me at home during school days. Oh and my internet cable is also locked but I used a small piece of metal to open it! One more thing, I can only go out of the house with my friends twice a month! What do you think?

Answer 1

Maybe the reason you have a 3.8 GPA is because of all those things. Maybe you think it's not fair now, but a few years from now, you will see that it was done in your best interest. Your brains are your most important asset, and will take you anywhere you want to go in the future. Just go with it...you'll thank your parents down the road when you are very successful, and the people who had a lot more freedoms are not.

Answer 2

Nice GPA, congratulations.

I don't think the cell phone thing is at all too much. I can see how they may not want you on the phone too much, but maybe not letting you talk at all during the week is kind of much. I can see them limiting Internet time.

The one thing that might be nice is if they let you see friends a little more often.

You're still just 14, though, so maybe in another year or so they'll loosen up on that a little.

It may not seem (or even really "be") fair, especially since you have that good GPA. You may feel as if you're being punished in spite of being a good student, and that's a valid point. Still, they're your parents and you won't be under their roof for all that much longer. If - when college applications time comes - you have the grades that will get you into a great school you may be able to look back and kind of be glad that whatever your parents did it somehow probably helped you keep up the grades.

Considering your age, I, personally, think they're wise to do have some limits on some things; but I think they could loosen up just a little without sacrificing your grades or behavior. All parents think differently, though, so my opinion is nothing more than an opinion.

Answer 3

First of all, you have a cell phone. That is more than most teenagers get. I'm going to assume that your parents are paying for it too.... so I wouldn't complain about not having access to it. It isn't even yours if you don't pay the bills!
Also, having your phone line locked during the school days sucks, but you have all night friday and all day saturday and sunday to use the phone. Is there really a need on weekdays? They are just trying to make it so that you aren't distracted from school.
As for your internet and cable, I have respect for your parents for that! Too many kids sit on the couch all day and never get any exercise, never read a book, etc.
I had a few friends who had a similar rule which was "you can go out once a week". I remember having to see my ex-bf every other weekend because he was under this rule and on the other weekends he would go to the movies with his friends or chill with his buddies. Although he turned out to be an odd character, he still managed to do really well in school and grew up with a lot of respect for his parents.

Although your parents are strict, you are not suffering in any real way, so suck it up and deal with it!

Answer 4

I don't think its fair at all. Your parents are going to put an end to your social life and you will end up having a mental breakdown. You should talk to a school counsler ask them what you should do. I think they should say after your home work is done you can talk on the phone/go on the internet or hang out with friends until 8:00 or something. Try negotiating with them a little. Ask them for a test month with that or somthing and if your grades fall Then you understand and will stop complaining about it. And then you can ask for a nother test month every year untill it works.

Good Luck!!

Answer 5

NO that is not fair unless you have done something wrong to make your parents loose your trust. They should at least let you have people call you at the house and maybe give your cell after you get home from school.They should let you out of the house more than twice a month.

Answer 6

wow...i'm 14 and i go out with my friends all the time. and my grades aren't half bad at all. i have a cellphone and it's very useful, because i can talk to my friends about the homework, what we are doing in school tomorrow, etc. also when i go out, my mum can call me every so often and check if i'm safe. the internet cable thing, though...how do you do research for school without the internet? also the going out with friends twice a month thing is REALLY harsh. ask your parents if you can increase it to three to four times a month.

Answer 7

You may think your parents treatment is harsh. Actually it is just the opposite, very loving. It takes a lot more work on your parents part to monitor your activities than it does just to let you do any thing you want. Be glad you have such involved parents. Some day you will be thankful for the way your parents raised you. And you will cherish the time you spent with them.

Answer 8

Yes, I agree with you. It's not fair at all. With that high GPA, I am not sure why are your parents are doing this. If you know the reason to this, then try to change yourself and have patience. Later, you will see that they will change the rules on their own.

Try to get a little higher GPA and maybe your parents will understand. If not, try talking with them and tell them what you want. They are parents aren't they? They are supposed to understand this. Try it - and wait. Till then, have some fun like watching TV, playing video games,etc.

I hope you feel alright.

Answer 9

No I don't think it unfair, and I know I let my daughter have way too much freedom and I paid dearly for it. There are many Internet predators and people in the world. You need to realize your parent are doing this out of love not out of spite or meanness. Mind your parents and you will grow up to be a good person.

Answer 10

Do you think you would still have that 3.8 GPA if they didn't do these things? No I don't think it's fair, but they are your parents, and have taken responsibility for you until you are 18, so I guess you have to either deal with it, or try to barter for more privileges.