i have a couple questions about divorce?

Question

is this true? i found it on some website.


"Finally, if you have been served with divorce papers you only have 30 day’s to respond. (in some states 10 days) if you do not respond your spouse will get everything she has asked for. If there are children, you could lose forever your right to have a substantial visitation relationship with your kids. The worst thing you can do is nothing at all!. By not responding you are giving up a number of your significant rights as a father."


also i have your opinion to ask. if you just had your first little girl 10 days ago and you caught your husband asking for naked pictures of underage girls online, having cyber sex with them and masterbating to them, and find saved webcam videos of little kids having sex,and turn him into the police, do you think he should be allowed supervised visitation with the child? i dont think my husband should but a lot of people are telling me i'm being selfish. i just want to see other opinions

i did apply for divorce. i just havent been to court yet

thanks guys. thats exactly how i feel. turning him in was hard. i did it the same day i found it. i posted a question like this on here before and everyone said i was selfish. i knew there had to be something wrong there cause i just did what came natural and that is protecting my child

also i didnt ask for much in the divorce. just the car the babies stuff and my clothes. i left him everything. but since hes in jail, all his friends broke into the house and took everything of value left. i guess that serves him right cause he gave them the keys lol

squaw, read the question, i am the wife protecting her daughter, im not the sick husband

Answer 1

First part-most likely true in most states.
second: So what if they call you selfish- that is NOTHING like what your own daughter will call you later if you don't fight to protect her from that monster! DO NOT LISTEN to them! You are totally right and they are so wrong!!!

Answer 2

Response to first question: If divorce papers are served, the first page provided by the Court Clerk will set forth the time in which to respond to the Petition of Divorce. If there is no response, the divorce is granted by default, but if the respondent hires an attorney outside the time limit but before the divorce is granted, he/she usually can negotiate with the petitioner's attorney and/or the Court for an answer out of time. &, yes, the worst thing a respondent can do is nothing. Some people feel they can't afford an attorney, but the truth of the matter is that they can't afford NOT to hire an attorney if the petitioner gets more child support than the Court would have mandated, gets the house, gets to claim the kids on income tax, and whatever else has a monetary value.

As to question two--you indicate you found both of these on some website and my response to this one would be: Why are you listening to other people's opinions? Why would a mother put her child at risk for sexual abuse in order to not look bad to friends and family? Are you crazy? If you have evidence of all of the allegations you have set forth in this post, find an attorney who has some BIG kahoonahs and get supervised visits and mandated addiction therapy.

Answer 3

G'dmn! Yea, if your a pedophile, the absolute best scenario is supervised visitation with your children. It can just as likely be NO visitation. And just exactly what do you think a pedophile is?! I doubt anyone is going to judge you selfish for keeping a pedophile at arms length from your children. And as far as your first question, when you get served you have a set period of time to answer the complaint. You can ask the court for more time and one of the best things to do is get an attorney who will extend the time, file your answer and counter petition for what you need. If you don't answer and the time expires, a "default" judgment will ensue and whatever that person asked for, if they go to the court and get it after default, will be granted. Why? Cuz the other person didn't answer. However a default for failure to answer can be easy to remove if you can show a reason why you didn't answer. This usually comes up when the other party tries to enforce provisions of their complaint such as asking for child support or alimony or not allowing visitation or whatever. My advice is that you call the police and then you call a lawyer. Be smart and brave about this. Good luck.

Answer 4

Usually the courts give the child to the mother, unless he fights to have custody for her. The father has to prove that the mother is an unfit mother or is dangerous. The courts will decide. You should respond if you don't want this to go bad. You might want to get yourself a good lawyer too.

Your second question, this husband should be behind bars for his behavior of wanting naked pictures of underage girls on line. He is considered as a pedophile. He is considered to be dangerous and soon to be a molester if he is not turned into the police. You will save a lot of children's lives, if you turn him into the police.

He should not have any visitation unless he is supervised. Don't worry what those people tell you, this is not their kid! It is your kid. You are the mother.

Hope this helps. Just thought this is about you.

Answer 5

YIKES ... NO unsupervised visitation with a little baby girl if the Creep is ALREADY doing sexual things with Minors -- whether it is the Computer ... or not.

This is very WRONG behavior ... and yes, IF you are thinking of Divorce .. DO TELL IT TO THE COURT (and provide the PROOF -- print out the pages he visited, the site records, anything and everything that you caught him at).

I would be SERIOUSLY Worried about the SAFETY of MY Daughter with such a predatory individual around ...

And as far as the rest .. yes, one does need to respond, but NO divorce court is going to give UNILATERALLY to one spouse 'everything' if the other does not respond right away. IN FACT, most of the courts bend over BACKWARDS (except for those of us in the Military (and yes, I am Female and was on Active Duty at the time)) for responses. Unfortunately, being FEMALE, the court/judge in the case kept demanding things I could NOT do (because of Military Duty (and he even was LOOKING right at me in MY UNIFORM when he berated me)).

Answer 6

I know nothing about divorce papers but you need to leave him he has a ****** problem, I never understood why someone would look at young kids, I find it very disgusting, he sounds like he needs help, his attn is focus on some other BS when it should be on you and your newborn daughter get out of there b4 it is too late. Oh and he probably needs to be turned into the police but worry about you and your daughter first and dont worry about what everyone else is telling you they are not in your situation, do what you feel, being concerned about the well being of your daughter is not being selfish.

Answer 7

Personally I don't think he should see the child at all. But they might give him supervised visitation. Which is better than him being alone with the child. I would tell him to stop with that stuff and get help or divorce him. Good luck

Answer 8

Doesn't matter if you think he should be allowed the court decides that. If you prevent him from seeing his child you could end up being the one in trouble. About the 30 days thing that's what I was told by one lawyer but then they fired her. Turns out my divorce lawyer's boss was friends w/ my husbands divorce lawyer. They tried to screw me good. Keep asking questions cause it helps to hear what others have been through. I'm sorry I didn't do that.

Answer 9

Personally, I think he should go to jail. You are right, he should not have contact with the child, either. Even with supervised visitation, things can happen. Do everything in your power to protect your child from this man. He has no respect for other people's children, so I doubt he would respect his own.

Answer 10

dear dear what a mess but first things first have you kept evidence of his problems? this will be necessary and good in a sad sort of way. Next you need a lawyer to advise you or you need to file papers yourself as it does cost and is also time consuming but a necessary procedure. Don't just leave it act now. Possibly there are advice lines you can follow.contacting either the courts or agencies. cheer up eventually it will all be just a bad memory but by taking action asap you will be in front!