Anyways, I am wondering if I should get out of this relationship (we have a child) before my self esteem and sanity, go right out the window. He is always "forgetting" what I ask or say to him, yet he will remember anything to do with sexual activity.
He never listens to me unless the word sex in it, otherwise Im talking to a brick wall.
The only thing that will send his temper through the roof (and he will make me look like the bad guy) is if you refuse to have sex with him, anything else doesnt even come close.
When I was 8 months pregant, he tried to kill me by strangulation (he makse it sound less serious than it was) I gave him a second chance (i know stupid), to this day he doesnt show any remorse for it, he just says "sorry" with no real emotion.
Looking back for the last 3 years, I have realised that I wasnt ever happy,just "rolling over"....I want out, I have told him and he threatens to take my son away. I dont know what to do, cause I am a stay home mom.
2007-01-22 17:23:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take your son and go to the closest women's domestic violence shelter. Even if you stay with him, do you want your own son to learn how to act just like his father? I think not! They have resources there, they will get you an attorney (you won't have to pay) they will give you clothing and food, they will help you find a place to live (maybe far away!) and help you get enrolled in college or whatever it is you want to do. I've been there myself, only I had two small sons, believe me, going to that shelter and getting away from that jerk was the smartest thing I ever did ----I hope you will do something to get away from this guy!
2007-01-22 17:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you stay at home mom get this fear from that these men can take your kid because you are a stay at home mom? If anything the courts will give you more child support while you are out of work. By the time you get done telling a judge that the punk choked you and never showed remorse from it and yet, you took him back. He don't love you. You're just an object for him and his desires will only get worst. Get out while you still can. Good luck to you.....
2007-01-22 18:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take your son to a battered women's shelter. He can't take your son away. He's just trying to scare you. Trust me, I've been through all the b.s. lies and I know there are more that you haven't mentioned. I'll bet you're a stay at home mom because he doesn't allow you to work, right? Well, that's not going to hurt you in the eyes of the court. The only thing getting taken is a piece of his paycheck for child support. Leave the guy before your kid picks up on his behavior.
2007-01-22 17:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out that is not good. don't put yourself through that and do not put you child through that. I was in a relationship with a guy for 4 yrs that was abusive he had a bad drinking problem and a bad drug problem I have no reason why I put up with that but I finally had enough when he ended up hurting someone during a hurricane after he tried to fight me and hit my while this hurricane was going on after he set the room on fire that i was in and I could't get it out and I have never been happier in my whoe life the minute I got up and left I felt relieved like a load was tooking off of me. I was happy and I hadn't been happy in a long time I knew he was gonna end up killing me or hurting me really bad well I hope ll works out for you and if you ever need to talk my yahoo name is dixiegirl36572@yahoo.com
2007-01-22 17:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Miranda J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out ASAP. The minute he put his hands on you no matter if you were pregnant or not tells you that you need to get out. The fact that he put his hands on you when you were pregnant tells that it will only get worse fron here on out. He has no love for you at all or he wouldn't treat you like he does. This slug has nothing to offer you or your child only abuse. Leave him before he hurts you AGAIN or the baby.
2007-01-22 17:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by norcalguy559 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 11:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay...
could it be you're "imagining" he's so bad ?
He really sounds like a wonderful guy..
& besides..you have a child ?
How could you separate your child from his father..?
2007-01-23 02:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN TO ME! Overcome your fear by following your heart. The only narcissist who can love you is that who loves you more than himself.
2007-01-22 17:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by Miguel Angel R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not gave him anther chance , he must cheek the Doctor
2007-01-22 17:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋