I have been having sex with this guy like for the past four months, has not asked me out since. he has on more then more one occasion said he wants to be with me but does not want to be in a relationship. Well recently we decided to both be just friends but after that decision we have had sex again. It is so hard for me to resist. Now we are just friends I realize how much i enjoy his company and how he makes laugh, etc. I feel deep down that he does want to be with me. I feel he does not want to explore his options before he commits. I dont know if he really wants to be with me or what i need sum guidance.
2007-01-22 17:20:59 · 5 answers · asked by anunya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he tries to hold back from having sex as well
2007-01-22 17:28:30 · update #1
Sorry to say it, but it if you only have sex everytime you see a guy and you never have an actual date where he asks you out an presents you to his friends/family/the world as someones he is seeing and has interest in, you are a "Friend with Benefits" (FWB) or better know as, the booty call, to the guy.
The only way to find out for sure if he really wants to be with you and wants more from you than just sex is to set the boundry AND STICK TO IT to not have sex if you are just friends because it is leading you on. If he still wants to be in a relationship with you and calls you after that, then there is hope.
If you don't set the boundry, he likely will continue for a few more months in the same pattern until he finds another girl he is interested in and stop calling you even for the FWB and you will be hurt even more then than you will now if you stop having sex and he doesn't show any more interest in you.
2007-01-22 17:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you guys are having sex and not in a relationship, then this guy has everything he needs and doesnt see the need to be with you. Your only hurting yourself so you have to be honest with yourself. Maybe you should not make yourself so available so then you can see the way he reacts to it.
2007-01-23 01:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by happiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like the perfect girl. Lots of poosy and no annoying relationship to deal with. I think I love you!
2007-01-23 01:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..for one this guy doesn't sound so great...it sounds like all he wants is sex.....which if he wants to have sex with you,you need to let him know that you arn't just a one night stand fling...not somone he can throw to the side.....make it easy either your with me and we can have sex or your not
2007-01-23 03:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you satisfied to just be a "bootie call?" From what you've described, that's what it sounds like.
2007-01-23 01:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋