I dont know what to do?

Question

I Really Love my girl friend, I would hate to lose her...
I cant stand the thought of her in pain.

but about a year ago, I slept with another girl. Believe me I hated myself for it....
I know I shouldnt have, but it seemed like I couldnt control my hormones. and I know that sounds pathetic but its true.

well I told her about the "sleeping" part. It hurt me as much as it hurt her. I couldnt tell her about the other stuff we had done. I knew it would rip her heart out even more, I couldnt bear that.
I love her to much,

Well we finally got it behind us in a way I gave her a Promise ring
I give all I can to show I love her.

and all of a suddon, she asks "why didnt you tell me this, sorry isnt going to cut it."

I dont know what to do, or what to say. I just dont want to hurt her anymore...

And I have been thinking of suicide, so I wont hurt her anymore
Id much rather give my life then to see her sadden


PLEASE HELP

Answer 1

Cheating... boo for that. But humans make mistakes. Humans also forgive.

OK... suicide is NEVER the answer. Seems like you two are very close, or were at one time. She would never forgive herself for not forgiving you if you committed suicide. You're better off just sticking with her the best you can. It will be painful! Thats a guarantee... but at least you're man enough to admit your mistakes. She will see that with time, and forgive you.

Its obvious you care sooo much about her, so I'm certain that she is aware of it too. If your love is real, it will survive this "test." It will take time for your relationship to heal, so be sensitive to her and give her time and space to recover. its big news to anyone, but keep faithfully showing your love and kindness to her, and, God willing, she may take you back.

Don't give up on yourself or your relationship...

Answer 2

What you did was wrong, but coming out and telling her was the right thing to do. Killing your self will not help, just think of how much pain she will be in know you did that. You two just have to work out some issues, and this will prove your relationship, if you guys can make it through, you guys will go strong. But now she will have a trust issue for a while. Just let her know that she is the ONLY one in your world, let her know you love her. Word speak better then gifts. You have to tell her why you did not tell her at first and it may be hard, and if you did not tell her then you had a reason, so just tell her the truth. If she really loves you she will find it in her heart to attempt to make it through. Hold on to her, if you love her you would do anything to prove it, and if she can't see that then she is a fool. If you feel that much love for her then tell her. Let her know it will NEVER happen again. It is hard for a girl to get over that but it can happen. I hate it when that happens. But I feel for you. So just talk to her, tell her the whole truth. And you guys can pull through it. It will take time though, don't give up. And she will think you are an asshole for a while, it was an asshole move, but it will take time for it to heal. Well good luck.

Answer 3

You don't have to tell her anymore. You've already told her the important part, that you cheated on her. It's the lie and betraying of trust that hurts. She doesn't need more details, they will just hurt.
And committing suicide would hurt her a lot more than what you did with some other woman. If you really don't want to hurt her, put that thought out of your mind. Get yourself a counselor to talk to. Call a suicide hot line (I'm sure you can find them in the phone book or on line) and talk to someone! This is important.
As far as her saying that "sorry" doesn't cut it, she's right. You are going to have go through a long time of proving to her that you can be trusted and that you are worth the hurt you caused her. And it is going to hurt you now.
And hopefully you will learn a lesson for the next time you are tempted to betray someone you love.

Answer 4

Thats like saying there is no hope for anything, c'mon if you love her like you say and she loves you..theres room for forgiveness and a new start if you really mean it. I understand u hurting cuz you hurt her and so on..but to end something that can mend itself with time is silly thinking. Besides if you end your life she will move on eventually with someone else. Good Luck.

Answer 5

if i were your girlfriend, i wouldn't even talk to you.

relationships are all about trust & being humble with each other. and obviously, this isn't the case.

you should be thankful that she's still talking to you.

i wish you the best of luck, though!!