This girl's guy friends are starting to be nicer to me.I had problems with her before(me turning down her flirting advances,her talking crap,me talking crap,dirty looks the whole 9 yards,and after i was more cordial and polite towards her for a couple conversations, they seem to be acting nicer to me.I don't get it,does she want to use me for something?Or am i reading too much into it?
2007-01-22 17:01:45 · 5 answers · asked by pat t 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Seems like the cordiality and the politeness are the catylysts, making the good changes happen. Power on pat. You MAY be reading too much into it.
2007-01-22 18:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by endpov 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say without a great deal more detail but from what you said I'd assume that this is happening.
You and her have a conflict. She vents about it to her friends. Her friends either being protective of her or attempting to catch her attention for themselves act out toward you. Probably at her urging. Then when things ease up she says nice things about you and these guys act normal with you. Since they had no personal gripe with you it's easy to drop the facade.
The lady does sound like she enjoys manipulation. Like she has a string of guys who do her bidding and that you don't find her irresistable might make you all the more tempting to her. However if you ever did give in she'd have nothing but contempt for you. You've made the struggle too bitter.
My advice is to just be friendly and polite but avoid her as much as possible. Be firm about your intentions but not rude about it. Remember often a sign of initial attraction is tension. The dipping a girls pigtails in ink kind of thing to say I like you. So being as nuetral as possible will help. Even if she does try to set you up, if you are distant but polite what opprotunities does she have?
2007-01-23 02:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by draciron 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the short description, I think you read a bit too much. Go on with your live and work. Don't spend too much time thinking about this small quarrel. The world is bigger than the office you are working in. Take your minds off that place.
2007-01-23 01:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you prolly are reading too much into it. Think about it from their point of view. If you weren't nice to any of them before, why would they be nice to you? But, most people are cool enough to where if you treat them well and are pleasant company, they'll be nice to you and treat you the way you treat them. Don't think so much in situations like this, but if you really feel like there's something fishy going on, I'd say never ignore your instincts. Be aware, but just don't be rude b/c you THINK something might be up.
2007-01-23 01:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by collective224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reading to much in to it. Your nicer to her so her friends are nicer to you. It's as simple as that.
2007-01-23 01:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by AceOfBears 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋