This guy and I are best friends and we are in other relationships, He knows how my husband is and he tells me that he loves me. He has physically fought with my husband over how he treats me. I have never had ANY sexual contact with him before. Neither have I lead him on into thinking that I would. Is this love or lust?
2007-01-22 16:39:58 · 5 answers · asked by Destiny 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes he can, love, if it's truly love is more than just lust, it's about sharing feelings and emotions, trusting and being friends. It's about connecting and having feelings for the other person. Though with that being said I do have to warn you that he may be drawn to you because your a damsel in distress if your husband treats you wrong. That the main attraction is that he has to "save you". Is that wrong, is that bad, well, it probably means that there is something seriously wrong with your current relationsthip if others outside can see it. Just take it slow and make sure that your making the right decsion, do it for yourself, not because he would rescue you but that you are making a decision that will make you a happier person. If he still loves you and wants to be with you after you break off an abusive relationship then it's bonus, if he doesn't or is less inclined to be with you then you've at least gotten to a place that may be better than where your at. Good luck and take care, sort through all the things that COULD happen if you make certain choices. Just above anything, do what will make your life better.
2007-01-22 16:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by jimstock60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's non-sexual, I'd say it's love. If you were actively feeding lustful passion and already engaging in relations, I'd say lust. But maybe it's not right of him to interfere with your marriage, maybe he wants to see where a relationship would take you, that would be the only lustful side, I think.
2007-01-23 01:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by seasonschange 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very hard to judge by the way you discribe the matter, but i think is love. Don't lead him on if you are happily married, but if you are not, and with no children , you can seriously think about getting out of the marridge you are in, but it all depends on you .
2007-01-23 01:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by jade s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of the definition of a gentleman?
A wolf with patience! Careful....Do not betray your husband no matter how wonderful your friend.
2007-01-23 00:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by sunrayman123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband fell in love with me. And we didn't have sex until we got married. So, yes it can happen.
But, remember that you are married and you are with your husband until death do you part.
2007-01-23 00:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋