I just found out the (ex)boyfriend I had been living with for the past 6 months has been cheating on me.?

Question

1. How do I continue living in the same city as he is?
2. When he found out I knew he stopped calling me and won't return any of my messages when I deserve some answers, will he come around?
3. Can I send an incriminating, but well-thought out email to the both of them for the purpose of casting some internal doubt over what it is they think they have together?

Answer 1

Sorry you were the survivor of a cheating boyfriend, but glad to hear he's an 'ex-'

1. You just go about your business and take care of yourself. Don't let him drive you out of a city in which you are established.

2. Girl, why the hell are you calling him for answers?? Forget him, don't call him, and no he won't come around (nor should you let him).

3. Do you really want to lower yourself to his level by furthering your contact with him/them, or do you want to get on with your lift and chalk this up to a (hopefully) learing experience, albiet a painful one emotionally. If he cheated on you, it won't be too long before he cheats on her. Don't get dirty down there in the gutter, stay on the sidewalk and keep walking.

In closing, if you don't just forget this bad experience, you are just asking him to walk on you again, and that indicates to me a serious problem with your self-esteem.

Good luck, and peace out

Answer 2

Please!.....a 'well-thought out e-mail' will cause 'internal self doubt'. Let her have him. So he's going to run you out of town? That will be the day when I would let some cheating loser make me leave town. He's not worth the effort you are putting into all this thought and planning. Move on. Shake the dust off your feet and count it up to experience. Have some pride. Don't call him..it makes you look pathetic. Dont' let him know he even crosses your mind. Believe me...you ain't crossing his. You deserve answers? You deserve faithfulness and love and loyalty...but he didn't give you that ..so why do you think you can demand 'answers' because 'you deserve' it. Count your blessings...you could have been married...had a child....Say 'THANK YOU LORD'....'cuz many of us were in much worse situations before we found out......

Answer 3

Just try to forget everything i know that must be very hard..
1. how?? depends on the where do you live?? if you life in the big city.. so why do you care, but if you live in the small city try to not go to place where you guys used to go together..
2. OMG, he might be feel guilty or he just don't care about you.. so why do still want to hurt your self even more?? i know you still think you desrve the answer from him.. but girl, that guy doesn't care about your feeling... at all
if you try to contact him so many time...but no return do you think he will came to you someday?? he might be so happy now with the " new" girl. that is the reason he is not return your call.
3.for what ?? do you think he will read and care about your e-mail?? if so many time you try to call/leave massage to him but no return... the only e-mail you can send only to his "new" girl.. tell her everything happend to you, the bad thing about him
but never about your broken heart feeling.. they will laugh at you.
AND THE LAST.. JUST FORGET ABOUT THAT ASSHOLE, just move to new apt /place and get rid all his old stuff, just it i know it is hard but it will work. good luck for you girl, just e-mail me if you
need more support.

Answer 4

Answering these based only on what you told us...

1.) Not sure. That is something you have to decide yourself, but if your city is any kind of size you should be able to avoid seeing him. I think it is drastic to move away because of one failed relationship, but if you need space to get over it, whatever you need is what you should do.

2.) He clearly wants no contact whatsoever. If I were you, I wouldn't waste my time.

3.) Don't do that! That's very low class. If you need to send a letter, send it to the girl he's with informing her of how he treated you. If he's a scumbag, she has a right to know.

Answer 5

plz plz plz plz just let him go and pretend like he doesnt exsist. i see women doing this all the time, and i quite frankly i dont understand it. yes i know it is hard to get over some one you love or care about, but if that person cheats on you dont you think you deserve something better. living in the same city as him is easy just ignore him, do stuff with your friends, join a club or something, do things to get your mind off him give yourself time to heal. as far as will he come around goes, just let go, you dont want him to come around. have some respect for yourself and know that you deserve something better than a man that will do that to you, with time this will pass, it will be hard yes, but it will pass, again i cant stress this enough give yourself time to heal your most likely will go through a process this might help http://www.ehow.com/how_13305_over-breakup.html. and for your last question plz dont do anything stupid like that you just make yourself look childish, belive me you will look like the better person, on top of that he might even get mad because he sees that your letting go like a classy women and that might make him jealous because he might think wow i cant believe shes getting over me already.

Answer 6

if he your ex . first of all why are you living with hm., and second
if he and you are not together as a couple then who he with
really sound not be a concern to you. unless you are together
still playing house, then you need to confront him.

Answer 7

Forget the whole thing. You can find much better things to occupy your time.

Answer 8

move on, get a life! that's the best revenge!!

Answer 9

sweetie! he may never tell you, he does nt want to swallow his pride....you need to take care of yourself.....Jesus hates a broken heart, and wants to help you, He loves you, please seek Him....God bless ya