Should i give the baby his name?

Question

i just found out i am having a boy!
My boyfriend(not married or planning any time soon) wants our baby to be a jr after him with his last name. i on the other hand really want our child to have my fathers last name middle name and first name, i really want this because he died a 1 1/2 years ago and he always told me to keep my last name otherwise our name will die out me and my dad were very close. i told my bf we will name our next son after him. is it wrong for 2 brothers(if we even have another son) to have different names and who should i name our son after?

Answer 1

Things get really confusing if same children in a family have different last names. By time your kid gets to school it gets confusing if mom and son have different names. Maybe this is the wave of the future. Anyhow.....
Unless your x really wants your boy to have his last name go ahead and have children and give them all the same last name.

My daughter has a daughter who shares last names because the father isn't around. Now my daughter has a son who has his dad's last name, which means the females in the family have one name and males have another last name.

You are NOT married to your bf so there isn't really any reason for you to let your son take his last name. And the way families are now who knows if you guys will stay together. Name your son after your dad and tell your bf to marry you if he wants your children to bare his last name.

Can you imagine breaking up with him and you have one kid with a different last name as yours? It isn't easy

It is a shame that men have children now and NOT marry the mother.
No balls it seems, no honor. NO sense of taking care of a family. But then that is my opinion. Guys can father babies all over the place and pick and choose who they want to be a daddy to. Very sad, what is this teaching young children now?

Your dad was an honorable man and gave his children and woman his name. You honor him and name your son after him.

Answer 2

I hate it when kids are 'jrs'. Name him after your father. It has such a better, more meaningful story behind it. And besides, if you're not planning on marrying the baby's daddy, who's to say that he'll still be around in a few years? And if you do stay together and get married, you can always amend your son's name and add the dad's last name to the end of your father's last name. Like Smith-Jones, or something.

And it's not wrong for members of a family to have different last names. I think a better solution would be to hyphenate, though, because with different last names, people will assume they had different fathers and might think badly of you. I know a girl who has four kids, and each of them has a different last name, all of which are different from hers. Now that's a bad situation.

Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 3

I went through the exact same thing(but i was married) anyway my dad died and my family named stopped here to obviously no boys being born and only girls...this is what i did as a compromise..my son and daughter have our names hyphened and we did the same with my last name then with my son he can carry the name but i do know what you are going through and it is hard..losing a father is so hard. but do what you know is right in your heart ..your boyfriend should understand if he cares about you and you are compromising with the last name a suggest would be to give the baby your fathers middle name or first name and your boyfriend could have the opposite

Answer 4

You should give the child his father's last name for sure!!! Give him your fathers first or middle names. Then the two of you decide together on the other one. It is selfish of you to give the baby all the names that just you want. Regardless of whether you are married or not, this is still his child! Kids should have their fathers last names unless they completely abandon the child.

Answer 5

the baby should be named after his father. His LAST name - as for his first and middle name - name him whatever you want. I think men sometimes forget that we are already giving up a part of ourselves by losing our name to the child. Compromise and do both. You can always do a hyphenated last name.


Name him whatever you want to - it already seems there isn't much commitment for a long term relationship - but IF there is any likelihood that you are staying with the father - you should agree together

Answer 6

I'm not sure, but I don't think you can legally give your son your own last name as his ONLY last name. I've never heard of someone who only had their mom's maiden last name, unless you hyphenate it (such as Anderson-Smith) . The last name normally comes from your dad... Even if you were able to give your sons different last names, it would cause them a world of frustration throughout their lives. Imagine how many times they'd have to explain the story, and what they'd go through at school.

Also, you shouldn't undermine your boyfriend's wishes in naming his own son - he's the father, and you have to respect that. It's only in this day and age that it's even a question.

Answer 7

I don't like 'snr' and 'jnr' names personally. A child needs their own indentity. It's lovely to name children after family members, loved ones and people you respect, but that's what middle names are for.

Answer 8

Yes it is wrong. Name the baby after the father.. Congrats. Good Luck

Answer 9

Name your baby whatever you want...if you ever get married you can hyphenate your last names...like I do mine... A*****-F*****
Or make him take YOUR last name when/if you marry...it's not a rule or law you have you have to take his name after you're married. You can keep your own or change it.

Answer 10

you should do what you father said. you are the one actually having the kid i think you should get more choice in naming especially if you arent gonna even get married theres no point then