I have 2 names that I'm deciding between for my baby. I found out I was pregnant 1 week after my boyfriend of 1 year and I had broken up. He begged me to have an abortion, but I chose not too. He was around for the first 2 months of the pregnancy, then he got extremely hostile and backed out. I haven't spoken to him in almost 6 months. I've paid all the medical bills without his help, etc. When we were still talking, we decided on a list of names we liked. Once the baby is born I don't know if he's going to come around or not. I'm not being unrealistic, but his problem is really with me so for all I know he could come around and be a great dad. I'm thinking this probably ISN'T going to happen but you never know.1 of the 2 names I have picked out is one that he liked, and one isn't.The advice I need is this, should I not go with a name he didn't like? Would that be wrong? I know that if he wanted a say he should be around to give it but I wouldn't want him to hate his daughters name.
2007-01-22 15:54:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
Looks like you will be the biggest / best influence in your childs life. Name her what YOU want... Good luck!
2007-01-22 15:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by firemedic 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should a name that is what you want and feel most pleased with. You should not look back for all you know he will never be man enough to face this wonderful child. And if he does then whatever the name is going to be ok! because is his child and it is very precious! As a parent I can only tell you that after our daughter was born the name is second and all it matter is all she does! Yes! we had different names but now nothing really matters, only her well being!
do not wrry you will make the right choice once again!
2007-01-22 16:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by m g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, if he's not around now I wouldn't hold my breath. He shouldn't have a say if he's not paying the bills. He's giving up his rights by his absence. Name the baby whatever you want. Just be careful not to pick a dorky name. What you name a child it will have to live with for life in most cases. Besides, the names you pick out now you might not use after the baby is born. My wife and I had names picked out we didn't use either time.
2007-01-22 16:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married when I had both my kids, but deep down, I didn't care what my husband wanted to name my babies. I was the one who went through the nine months of having this baby. If I wasn't with the babies father i definetely could care less what he thought.
When my daughter was born the nurse said, what is her name? My husband looked at me and said yes, what is her name? It told my husband that I would decide when I seen her.
Name your daughter what you want. don't worry about what he thinks. More than likely you will be the main parent to this child the rest of its life.
If he hates the babies name, too bad. He should been a bigger part of your life. Someone who wanted you to have an abortion doesn't deserve to have a part in naming your baby.
2007-01-22 17:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by Karen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SCREW this JERK!! Don't even take his feelings or opinion in to consideration. I'm surprised he cares enough to tell you a name, I mean after he asked you to MURDER your child. I would name MY baby what ever I want to. I mean if it were up to him, there wouldn't be a baby to name. He's a loser. The relationship your daughter has with him will be his choice and have nothing to do with the baby's name. I pray that he grows up and it a steady part of your childs life. Good luck to you!!
2007-01-26 06:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by onevanillakiss4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only go with the name you both liked if YOU actually want it. Since he's not around NOW, I say he gets no say on the name. If he wanted to be a part of the process, he'd be around now. You can't base either yours or your daughter's futures on what he may or may not do someday. Go with your gut instinct in the now.
Good luck!!! He sounds like a turd and you'll be better off without him.
2007-01-22 16:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I commend you for choosing life.
2. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior (Dr. Phil).
3. A child almost always wants to know who their parent is - regardless if it is a non-existent relationship.
4. I like the recent trend of giving the child the last name as a first name - perhaps you could come up with something to represent both of you.
I wish you all the best!
2007-01-22 16:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sansmoss 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he's not around and if you think that he's not going to come around then the decision is yours about what you want to name the baby. In my opinion he doesn't have any rights if he's not there for you or the baby.
2007-01-23 04:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by valerie_lynn82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would name the baby what ever i wanted too. If he doesn't want anything to do with the baby then that id his problem. He'll only be hurttin himself in the long run. The baby will have all the love it will need with you and ur family.
2007-01-26 06:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by redneckbabie77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the baby is born call him let him know maybe by then he would want to be a part of her life maybe yours too, Get pregnant might have been to much of a surprise for him. You have to chose what name is best for your daughter whether he is there or not.
2007-01-25 07:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by carrottop904 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing all the work and paying for all the medical bills, plus you are the one carrying the child. I think since he isn't there for you, pick the name you like. If he comes around, the name isn't going to matter, he will love the child anyway. Don't stress about it, there is enough to worry about later. take care of you.
2007-01-22 18:00:17 · answer #11 · answered by raspberryflavr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋