My best friend was raped repeatedly and stabbed. She is closing down on everyone and won't talk about it. How do I get her to talk? What can I do to show her I care? She going to kill me for posting this question, but I'm desperate! She is my best friend and I love her dearly. I feel horrible for not being there to protect her. She has been through h*ll and back already and now this. What can I do?
I know I done posted this before, big deal.
2007-01-22 15:45:26 · 15 answers · asked by Nate M 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You are a great friend! She is going thru hell! But I hope I can help 1st try not to ask to many questions, just treat her like u always did. I have a close friend with cancer and was going thru the same kind of thing. Then I realized hey let me be my self and start from there. In other words be with your friend as much as possible, but treat her just like U always did, talk about things that u know she likes, watch movies do whatever. I did this and all of a sudden my friend started opening up. I listened and never said I understood, I said I really could not understand it all, because I had not experienced it, but I would do whatever was needed to help. Be there, talk all hours, go to the doctor etc. and one of the best things make my friend laugh! That was music to my ears! So be with her as much as U can she should not be alone, even if u dont talk just hold her hand, let her know U R there now and always and anytime day or night she needs U or wants to talk U will be there! She will come around but it will take time, so be patient and please stop blaming yourself, she sure doesnt want that, it would make her feel worse. I hope this has helped some.
2007-01-22 16:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by bodacious baby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find the F_____ that did it, and skin him alive! Then pour alcohol on him, wait awhile to make sure he fully appreciates the pain, then light him on fire!
As for her there is nothing you can do, other than help her see a shrink to help her deal with this. Finding a rape surviors group would be a good idea. Give her a ride to help out if she needs it. What ever it will take a long time, you mustn't try to hurry, and also be very patient.
2007-01-22 15:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by knujefp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend need to contact a Rape Crisis Center and get proper councilling in order for her to start to heal. She is in a great deal of pain, shame and guilt right now and it is going to take a lot of love and support from her friends and family. Stand by her and give her time to open, when she is ready. Time heals all wounds,but, the scars will be reminders of a traumatic time in her life. Have they caught the bastard?
2007-01-22 15:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by nuttin'fancy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Both Nova & Franz. She needs the closure. Be there for her. She also needs a counsellor. Just be there for her. Good Luck! In my opinion tell her that you are calling the cops & do it. I don't know how long it's been, but if it was like before she showered or anything they can test for semen. Oh I wish I could help more! I really do. My heart goes out to her & you!
2007-01-22 15:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs counseling, she also needs your patients and understanding. Be there for her hug her give her your love and devotion, but at the same time, help her to move on. This is something that needs to be delt with by a professional.
I wish you all the best, and I will keep your friend in my prayers.
2007-01-22 15:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is truly a tragedy and I am so sorry for her(and you)! Perhaps you could just let her know that you are there for her no matter what and that you understand it will take her a long time to be able to talk but that when she is ready to open up, you will be there! Hopefully, they caught the bastard who did this and do away with him!
2007-01-22 15:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres no possible way you could make her feel better, you just have to let her know that your there for her, and wether she wants to talk to you or not you will always be there...thats what your job is as a friend just be there for her...She'll talk when shes ready, untill then dont force it on her..Time heals everything.
2007-01-22 15:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by Theophile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most of the things said on here except more violence, your rape crisis's centre is your best contact. i am not saying she will try committing suicide but please be aware it is a possibility.don't ask any thing just be there for her, and she will talk about it when she is ready. it good to hear, she has a Friend who cares. its a long rough road ahead.
2007-01-22 18:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Becky ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I imagine she feels as though everything around her is violating her space right now.
There is nothing you can do for her other than be there. I feel for her for what I can't even begin to think about and respect you for being there to help bring things together again even though it won't and can't be easy..
2007-01-22 15:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her. Counselours might be helpful as well. The best thing you can do for her is to just be there, listen, listen in the silence.
Sorry about what happened.
2007-01-22 15:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by loquaciousxleo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋