This woman is my husband's friend's wife. Her husband has some mental problem and doesn't care what his wife is doing. My husband and she have been together for 5 years. He has promised to leave her numerous times but has never done it. They could talk on the phone for many hours a day. I found this out in his cell phone call histories. He has always tried to hide this relationship from me. So he opened up another cell account with two phone lines just for him and her. I didn't know it until last month. Why would he have so much to talk with her? I have seen them hang out together many times in the past. Has he had sex with her already?
2007-01-22 15:41:46 · 40 answers · asked by Minnie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, and he probably still is.
2007-01-22 15:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey - the fact that he would go to those lengths to hide things from you shows a lot. Your husband and her have been together for 5 years and you are still with him? I'm sure he has had sex with her and I'm sure still is. You and your husband took vows, obviously he is not obeying them. I hate to be this brutally honest but it's woman like you who let guys cheat and in turn other woman get cheated on. It's a vicious cycle and you are enablying it to happen. I feel sad that you don't have enough self respect to leave someone who is having an affair.
2007-01-22 15:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by SpaceyLacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes!!! beyond a shadow of a doubt, and I don't even know any of you... he certainly is fukking this other woman, you need to bail out of this sick relationship now and let them have eachother....he's been lying and keeping secrets that no husband who is in a monogamous relationship would.....
sorry honey, but at the very least he's emotionally cheated on you, and you need to get help NOW if you want to stay with him...truly, whether he's had sex with her or not, that isn't the problem you need to confront, it's why he's carried on with her for so long and tried to hide it from you....
I know it's so much easier said than done, but if you are unhappy, then leave him to her....he's obviously left you in some way or another a long long time ago
2007-01-22 15:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mickey -
Does it make any difference to you whether he's had sex with this woman or not? If they've been together for five years in spite of his telling you he's going to leave her, and if they've got their own "family plan" phone lines, there's a mental committment, even if not a physical one.
Frankly, if you don't care about the five year serious relationship they've had, why do you care if they've had sex or not?
Good luck, and peace out
2007-01-23 10:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by winefp2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to burst your bubble...BUT guys don't "just talk" to strange woman for hours on end without wanting something. The fact that he tries to hide this relationship from you only makes it more apparent. I'm really sorry. I'd say "try and work it out" but honestly...this guy must think you are either stupid (she won't figure this painfully obvious thing out) or he doesn't really care enough about you to shoot ya straight.
I'd drop him. It's a cliche, but...there really are many fish in the sea.
2007-01-22 15:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does this matter?Why can't a man have a close friend that just happens to be a woman? If he has had sex with her,what will you do,Leave him? Are you just looking for a way out? Are you jealous? I'm not trying to be cold but if you want out,just leave.Here's another question, Are you trying to control him and who he sees? Life is to short to be controlled by another,live your own life through your eyes,not another.
2007-01-22 15:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM! Most likely, those conversations are plans! If he's hiding something from you, then there's something to hide in deed!
Why are you leaving him making the decisions about your life! Take charge & tell him that you're not putting up with this **** & that if he wants her, then he's free to go have her, but that you won't be waiting around like a door mat anymore!
Divorce him & find someone you will treat you with the respect you deserve!
2007-01-22 15:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If he has gone to such an extent to open another cell line just for her, its already happened. I dont know too many men that will do that just for a pleasant conversation. Move on. You deserve better than this. Dogs get treated better than your husband is treating you.
2007-01-22 15:46:11 · answer #8 · answered by mzagge06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is Your man how has he been with this other women for 5 yrs?If they are that close to where he would buy them there own phone lines and hid it from you you can almost be sure they are sleeping together.If my husband was talking to any women for that many hrs and got her a phone and he got another one just to talk to her would leave him and quick you don't deserve that.If he has promised to stop talking to her and hasn't then he will most likely keep doing it .He wants his cake and eat it to and your giving it to him.Good Luck!
2007-01-22 15:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u saw them together why didn't u confront him and try to stop it. she is having an affair with your husband, and yes it's obvious they have been intimate, but the main thing now is what are u going to do about it. seems as if it has been going on way too long. personally i would divorce him, as even if he would leave her how long would it last before he left and wanted to be with her again? 5 years is a long time, to be seeing someone.
2007-01-22 16:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he has or hasn't had sexual relationswith her, your trust has been broken. There is a such thing as an emotional affair. Your intuition is obviously telling you something is going on. If there wasn't anything going on why would he hide this "friendship". But this is all speculation go to the source and talk to him. Either his answers will satisfy you or they won't. But don't ignore what your better sense is telling you.
2007-01-22 15:50:23 · answer #11 · answered by p_eulb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋