I have been without a car for about a month and a half now. I attend college and have a 2 year old son. I gave my husband my financial aid check for $1200 to fix the car and we went and bought the parts for the car but hasnt even attempted to fix it and with the other $700 he went and bought a bedroom set...which we dont need. He didnt even ask me if he could buy that...it was my money. He also...HASNT TOLD HIS FAMILY WE ARE BACK TOGETHER...they dont like me...we seperated 3 years ago and now have been reunited for the past year and a half and he hasnt told his family..so when he is with them...he ignores me...doesnt answer the phone at all. He is a truck driver...he is never here. Never spends time with me. We never go anywhere together. We dont even have a sex life anymore. Im so sick of all this...im ready to leave him...what should i do???
2007-01-22 15:40:51 · 22 answers · asked by Sum12Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's time for you to start valuing yourself more than he values you. You say you're ready... Trust me. Making the decision to leave is much more difficult than actually leaving... once you make the decision, you're too busy building your new life to stress out over the fact that you're leaving... if that makes any sense!
Good Luck!
2007-01-22 15:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by abacus314 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seperated 3 years ago, reunited a year and a half ago, and have a 2 year old son. Guess I can't add very good.
2007-01-22 23:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay gurl. You have a serious situation on your hands. You need to have a big sit down with him. Try to tell him how your feeling, dont get mad tho. Stay calm, try and show him that you care.
If he wont change then you need to get your self out. Way out.
A guy who is afraid of what his family thinks of his gurl isn't much of a man, and he doesn't really care. In my opinion it almost sounds as though your being used. Good luck chika.
2007-01-22 23:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by tragicallypink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG ---- leave him NOW!!!!
He's keeping you "stuck," by not encouraging your educational and career goals.
His goal is to control you.
What don't you get about this...?
You're smarter than that, it's high time you cut your losses and make your move to something better.
Try to find out why you like being controlled so you don't ,make the same mistake.
If you stay in school you will find men of a better caliber.
2007-01-22 23:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Goodness. Why did you go back with him after having been separated? I know....we all do stupid things. Try counseling (for yourself) and if you find you need to leave, at least you'll have the emotional support you need. Sometimes we have to be kicked a couple of times before we do what we need to do. Good luck to you.
2007-01-22 23:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, sounds like he doesnt think much of you (sorry) if he ignores you/hasnt told his family you are together! You obviously are not happy & havent been for some time. Dont you think life is too short.......
2007-01-23 07:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by Eve M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are not happy with your life with him. You should leave him and start your own life, especially if you dont have sex anymore. That sucks! Was it like that the first time you were together with him?
2007-01-23 00:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not saying his a angel,but you should watch out what happens between,you guys something similar happen to me but it went for the bad way dont wait intil its to late solve the problem now,and you are first than anything,the family could wait you are first,that means his with you to have somebody to come to and do his stuff,or maybe i am wrong and he is just using you as a person to come and use after he is tired and have leftovers for you
2007-01-23 00:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sue helen O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats horrible. All of it is horrible. You need to leave him, especially if you have a small child. Staying will just be worse for your son in the long run.
2007-01-22 23:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by Christines256 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your not happy, I don't think your over reacting but if you truly love this guy you should try to communicate your feelings and the whys to him. If he doesn't seem to care or listen then you need to do what you feel is right for you and your child.
-NmD!
2007-01-22 23:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋