My husband and I are living below the poverty level, we struggle to buy my 3 children clothes and make sure we all have what we need. today my neibor comes knocking at my door and says i need to move my white car- I'm like- we don't have a white car she says yes you do- your husband came over the other day and asked how we liked his new white camero! I sat there looking comfused and stupid. So i called his cell phone and asked him if he has a white car, he said yeah- we've been having alot of problems and that was the last straw. He got a financial aid check and spent the whole thing on a car ($4000) #1 he didn't tell me he got his financial aid and # 2 he could have atleast told me he got a car, the car was sitting there for atleast 4 days and he didn't mention a thing to me. we each already have a vechle, and mine is actually unsafe for me to drive and im the one who always has our hildren. that hurts. I cussed him out then kicked him out, i can do bad by myself. did i over react
2007-01-22 15:31:15 · 30 answers · asked by Chava 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
THAT FINANCIAL AID CHECK , SHOULD BEEN SPENT ON THE KIDS AND YOU AND HE SHOULD HAVE CAME LAST .HE IS SELFISH ! ALSO, WISH I HAD $4000 TO SPEND ON A WIFE AND KIDS , I HAVE NEITHER AND HE IS SO LUCKY!
2007-01-22 15:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the point was for you to drive one of the safer cars and he thought that since he is the one going to school he could spend his financial aid check the way he saw fit.
You might have an agreement that major purchases should be decided by the two of you together.
2007-01-26 05:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have been very angry also, but now that it's all out in the open you should sit down and try to get it out of him why he did what he did. It was wrong no matter what to lie to you, but sometimes people make mistakes. Maybe after you talk it through he will either agree to sell the car and get a more sensible one, or possibly let you use it to take the kids around in.
He also needs to learn how to be more open with you, and if he doesnt think what he did was wrong, I wouldn't take him back. It's just selfish.
2007-01-22 15:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Franz Fiend 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm really sorry for you. But yeah you did the right thing. Your husband acted very irresponsibly but perhaps he got sick of having to wak evrywhere. But in any case he should have told you. What would make me tick even more was the fact that he asked his neighbours if they liked the car before he asked you...im sorry but you did not overreact at all...but your kids may miss out on some stuff with out a father with them all the time.
2007-01-22 15:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by cookies and cream 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No Chava - you are not wrong. At least $2000.00 of that money could have partially been spent on bills and the kids and the other half could have been put towards a downpayment on a vehicle with small monthly payments. That really was ridiculous. And the only way I could see him providing for the kids is if he comes up with $2500.00. That was very very immature and wreckless of him.
2015-03-17 01:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by malcolmx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really! Maybe he will get his head out of where the sun don't shine, sell the car at a loss, and turn the money over to you. Even if that doesn't happen, you shouldn't have to put up with this.
2007-01-22 15:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by waytooeasy67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I react very calmly. I take the biggest screwdriver I can find and chop at it until it's unjammed. Doesn't work to well on a DVD player though
2016-05-23 23:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who would let their Wife and Children go without to get a car when they already have cars, and to top it off not even tell you he bought it, to me that person is not a man. And I dont blame you for what you did. That check should have been for the kids......
2007-01-22 19:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH NO, NO! YOU DIDN'T OVER REACT. What is wrong with people! you don't have three children you HAVE 4! You need to get the keys to the new car, and it shall be yours he can drive your car from now on. Better yet just sell your car and keep the money and his car.
2007-01-22 15:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Under the circumstances no you didn't.
In any good marriage one person doesn't make a big financial purchase on his/her own without consulting with the other person.
Your husband broke a trust and in a marriage when there's no trust.....there's no marriage.
2007-01-22 15:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋