my husband is dangerous he is mean and i have tried to get away but it always falls thru i have no car or money i do not have a place to go katrina took the shelter and i do own my late grandfathers house our area is not helpful to abused women i have put him in jail numerous times for hitting me he is bipolar nice for only a brief time he thinks he is a good person he gets fired from every job he gets i am his 4 th wife he calls me names in front of the children i throw him out of the house and call the police then he always comes back police do nothing the womens abuse center has not been helpful i have been in shelters in texas and florida not a good thing sometimes worse off then being at home with himi am 48 now and cannot bear the thought of being struck with this awful man for the rest of my life my mom cannot help me she is in senior citizen home care and crys over this no peace now he is not working and i am disabled and with him 24 hours a day in the same room help please
2007-01-22 15:01:33 · 9 answers · asked by Mississippi's Jersey girl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh sweetie -- I am so sorry for what you are going through. It appears you've done so much to get away from this man but no one has been able to give you help for the long-term. Keep looking - there has got to be some resource you can tap in to for help.
I wish I could give you an answer, but I've never been there and I don't know what you are going through and how difficult it must be. But please don't give up -- realize you, and your children, deserve much better. Be strong. Find a way. God Bless.
2007-01-22 15:15:08 · answer #1 · answered by Gayle B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you contacted fema to provide you with financial assistance ? of course let it go to a separate account without his knowledge. I know you said the shelters are bad, but have you contacted a domestic violence hotline, maybe they can get you to an underground shelter for you and your kids, change your name, etc. Lie to him tell him you haven't received your disability checks for the past couple weeks or months, pretend like your upset about, only if he asks about the money. If you can't utilize the first 2 options, trust me you don't want to know the third, but at some point you need to fight back period. Domestic Violence hotline 1-800-799-7233 .
2007-01-22 15:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No woman should ever stay with a man who is abusive and hurting her this way and neither should a man stay with a woman that is abusive either..... you need to go to http://www.drphil.com and email him a letter about this and see what he has to say about this.... I am sure he will be more then willing to help you in this situation and he will be sure to try and help you get out and away from it but you will have to do it and not look back. He definitley needs help for his bipolar disorder that is for sure. Why do you keep going back to him and choosing to stay a victim to him??? Is it really worth it and do you really want to end up dead?
You really need to go stay with a friend or something or go to social services and report him and they may help you find shelter and a place... He also needs to be in jail and reported for this.
2007-01-22 15:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one point of time , i thot i WAS on the situation above, then i realised that i am trapped in the TRAP i built myself. the world is so big, definately there is a place for you. We knew where to look for help but is the emotional link that we cannot put our husband aside.. only we can help ourselves... I am walking out of the trap now.. although very painful journey but faith will carry me thru ...
I used to have the feeling that only if i kill him then i can be free ... but lucky i am still in my right mind, as much as i do not want him to take away my life, i will not take his life.
there will be a way... there will be daylight
2007-01-22 15:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...Breath...First thing is I hope that you are leaving your life to God...You are in a state on panic because you have been searching for help and it's not there....It's common for a woman in your situation to want to be rescued due to feelings of weakness...The fact that you want to get out is all the strenght you need,,,Don't panic....breath think things through...You have a house you own from your late grandfather...Use it...live in it, Get a order of protection againts him...that way when he does show up the police have no choice but to arrest him....call them everytime he shows up...Your best bet is to sale the house move away where he can't find you...Things always have a way of working out...Once you're out in the fresh air with a change to think you'll be able to figure things out step by step...
Good Luck to you and God bless
2007-01-22 15:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by getembigger_85027 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
facing the future with not much chance of getting free of him must be devastating. get a restraining order, file for divorce, got to try something, if he is not working than he isn't bringing any money in, so what good is he? it is understandable when no one seems to care why u have no hope. have to start with a restraining order, and than file for divorce, legal aide should help u.
2007-01-22 15:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun..i understand what u r going through..I dunno if i can help much..but just know what u r not alone..i'll...we'll try to help u out in any ways we can.He has already been in jail for a fair lot of times.So it wouldnt be hard to prove that he abuses u.Contact a lawyer and just divorce him.Move away to somewhere he won't find u.life is beautiful..fight for your share of it.take care and good luck....
2007-01-22 15:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have work ,Job , favorite you can make self confidence
2007-01-22 17:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that easy you know....... my cds are still in his truck
2007-01-22 15:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋