2007-01-22 14:59:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I stayed with my man after he cheated on me with two different women that I know of...he even got one of them pregnant and they have a love child together. I love him alot but I never let him forget about it and I told him right off the rip that I would never treat him right and he chose to accept it cuz he wanted me to stay. So I walk on him every single day.
2007-01-22 15:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends.
Is he sorry? Did you catch him or did he confess?
Was it a long term affair or an event?
what was MY state of mind at the time....
was I particularly unavailable for whatever reason
Am I financially tied to him for my economic security?
Was it a business trip when he was out of town or was it with the woman that he works with?
Was there a mutual attraction (and emotional infidelity) or was it purely physical?
Did I know the person he cheated with?
Can I be sure that the relationship was over?
I would have to determine the answers to those questions and a few more prior to making a decision....
everyone should do what is right for their particular situation.
I personally do not think that you should but I would not look down on someone who did.
2007-01-22 15:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is going to be so many answers to this questions.. kudos on the question by the way... I have always said that I wouldn't stay with my husband if he cheated on me b/c... obviously I meant nothing to him for him to have that fling, obviously our children meant nothing to him b/c he had that fling, and why would he cheat? If he loves me and wants me to be around with him forever with our children.. why would he ruin something so special to him. I mean if he asked me to stay and said he loved me and he was sorry and blah blah blah... i mean honestly.. i really can't answer b/c i'm not in this position... did he get caught? or did he confess? there are so many well if or well he said or well it was a one night thing.. or it will never happen again... i honestly don't know... i know that a friend of mine.. her husband was stationed at a remote base for a year, without his family and everything, he came back gave her an std she found out 3 months laters when she went to the gyno.. confronted him and then he said it was a one night thing he got drunk he was so sorry it only happened once..but he came back and acted normal... didn't look guilty, didn't buy guilty presents for her... he wasn't even going to tell her till she found out she had an std.... but she stayed with him for the children and b/c she said she loves him so very much... i don't understand why though... i would have packed up and left.. i mean obviously he wasn't showing no remorse... he slept with someone without a condom obviously, and he was never going to confess for his crime b/c he didn't think he was going to get caught... now i think in that situation that is a no brainer... but wow.. good question.. i just have no idea until I ever reach that point which hopefully is never...
2007-01-22 15:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish you had given some more info. like how long youve been together and are you sure this is the only time the cheating happened and your level of trust in this person. but for the most part you might be best letting go cause we gotta get the message across that once is enough. in my case i tried to forgive and forget but then it happened again and again and again and again............shall i go on?
2007-01-22 15:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you'd ever be able to really forgive this person? If not, it isn't fair to stay because you'll never really give 100% of yourself into the relationship. You'd both be miserable.
2007-01-26 14:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by MissTx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i feel you should if you can forigive them and get past it and if they are truley sorry for what they have done.. But at the same time if it is a habit with them and keeps continuing to do it to the person and the marriage then get out of the marriage and divorce as this is a lifestyle of adultery.
2007-01-22 15:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no.....if the person u love goes with someone else then that person trueley doesnt love u, even if u breaks ur hearrt. dont worry though there IS someone out there for everyone
2007-01-22 15:07:31 · answer #7 · answered by spidermonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually will never work out, because u will always remember they chose that other person over u, if it was a full blown affair, than no, if a one night stand, and the spouse is remorseful and it hasn't been a pattern of behavior than i would give them one more chance. full blown affairs aren't forgiven so easily.
2007-01-22 15:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on alot of things... don't really know the the details to give you an answer......... try going to a marriage therapist and consider it
2007-01-22 15:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love them yes, thats what love is all about
2007-01-22 15:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sxoxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋