My husband and I have been married for 2 years, we are about to go in on a house together with a firend who is going to be our roomate.
I just neeed to know if this sounds like a good or bad move, at times I really like the idea but at other times it doesn't.
Any opinions on this would help a lot, I have doubts as to whether this is a healthy move for a marriage.
Thanks for any and all help.
2007-01-22 14:41:00 · 10 answers · asked by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Same thing happened to me and my now EX-husband. His best friend came home from the army and needed a place to stay so he ended up on our couch. He never left. We even moved out of state and he came with us. It was nice to have help with the rent but that was it. We never had any privacy, I had to clean up after 2 men, he would look at porn on my computer, endless other annoying stuff. It got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore and my marriage suffered. It felt like me and my husband were now only roommates and I ended up falling out of love with him. Needless to say, we got divorced after 2 and a half years of marriage. My advice, DON'T DO IT!!! You guys need to be alone! Good Luck!
2007-01-22 14:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by ♫♪~♥ ME ♥~♪♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. My friend stayed with my husband and me for awhile about a year after we married.. Its just awkward. You guys may still be somewhat in the honeymoon stage. What if you decide to have sex in the livingroom? You cant. Simple freedoms that you may never think about disappear when you have a roomate. Our washer and dryer were by our kitchen and it wasnt uncommon for me to get dressed right there, you cant do that with a roommate. Friends think they know boundaries but most often they dont. More than likely, one of you will get stepped on and pissed off. Dont do it.
2007-01-22 14:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by PenguinsWife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general I'm going to say this is a bad idea. The marital home should consist of those in the family. We have had people live with us for a time, but in the end the house was my husband's and my own.
2007-01-22 14:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 01:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BADDDDDDDDDD IDEA! Your marital home should be yours only...don't get a roomate, lots of potential for affair, fights etc.
NOT a healthy move for the marriage at all.
2007-01-22 14:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fatal error for a new marriage. The roommate will be the third wheel and he/she will be tied to the house financially. BAD IDEA! DON'T DO IT!!
2007-01-22 14:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a very bad idea, and could certainly cause big problems in your marriage.
2007-01-22 14:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea.
2007-01-22 19:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what gender and age is roommate?
divorced/single?
working/student/both?
dating/rebound/not dating?
too many variables to work with here.
2007-01-22 14:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad... dont do it. the third person will probably come between you to.
2007-01-22 14:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by punkins_wife121705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋