2007-01-22 14:29:48 · 19 answers · asked by butterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, stop arguing front of the kids. Second, try to find the real reason both of you are fighting. I know its bigger than just that he put something in the wrong place or that you didn' t have dinner ready exactly when he got home because when couple argue all the time, one or both of them isn't admitting something that's really hurting them. I know from experience since me and my gf will argue about petty stuff till I find out she's really been depressed about something else the whole time and is just trying to unload on me. The same thing is probaly going on with you two; so stop arguing in front of the children, do some soul searching if you're upset about something, and talk it out instead of fighting. And don't forget to hug each other; it may sound weird, but it will help.
2007-01-22 14:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely stop fighting in front of the kids. Take it to another room, your bedroom, and discuss it. Don't yell at eachother, talk sternly and be serious, no sarcasm. If the kids can hear you yelling from another room, you might as well be in the same room as them. Make your point, and listen to his point. Find a middle in there and AGREE to it. Also, always back eachother on punishments that you would normally give. If the child did something outrageous and you don't know what punishment to give for it, then go to another room and discuss it together. Don't discuss that in front of the kids either. The kids should not hear any of the adult conversations. It makes your relationship look weak and they need strong parents. That way the kids know their parents are grounded and can't be pushed over. Hope this made sense and helps you out.
2007-01-22 14:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a good idea for you to see a marriage counselor together. If not together, you should go alone. Try to agree that you won't argue in front of the kids. Take a walk, or take a drive, when an argument starts. The website below is great for helping couples.
2007-01-22 14:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all STOP! Number one, kids don't need to be subjected to repeated arguments from their parents. I mean, a kid needs to see that their parents may have a spat every once in a while, as to not would be painting a picture that is not real, but arguing everynight is a bit much. Instead, ask him to take it to another room, or wait until after the children are in the bed. It will be better for all involved, especially for your children. Good Luck. If all else fails, then you may need to seek a marriage counselor.........that is not a bad thing and can help!
2007-01-22 14:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ashlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to stop arguing in front of the kids. Take it to your room and have the volume of your voices down. It sounds like you both need to see a marriage counselor to learn how to discuss differences in a mature manner. It is not good for any of you to listen to arguing on a daily basis.
2007-01-22 14:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguing in front of the children is one of the worst things you can do to a child. Children always internalize this and blame themselves. If you have a disagreement wait to discuss it when they are not in a place they can hear you, even if you have to send them to a friends or relatives. You both need to be adult about this and think of the kids first.
2007-01-22 14:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are creating a situation that will impact your children negatively as they grow up and quite possibly impact their relationships. Break the cycle, get divorced, move on, separate for some time apart, end the bickering in front of them.
You are screwing your kids up even if you dont intend to.
2007-01-22 14:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by mandee07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first be the bigger person and tell your husband that your not going to argue in front of the kids.ignore him if he continues then when it's just the two of you ask him to go to a counselor with you to save your marriage.
2007-01-22 14:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to hold your temper and your toungue and only talk with him and state your opinions away from the kids behind closed doors.... This is not healthy for the kids to see a divided front like this.... They need to see a united front.
2007-01-22 14:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are teaching your children how to treat others. You are teaching them how to treat their potential future mates. They also know you are not a united front and probably know how to manipulate you both already. You will scar them for life by doing this. If you both start- you need to walk away. If he won't quit, leave. Leave for your sake and the sake of your kids!!
2007-01-22 14:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋