im 23 years old. i have friends, been in relationships and am a likable person. but i cant stand myself! the way i look, i think im way to big when everyone of my friends says im not, and my family, but when i look in the mirror i see fat and i hate what i see! im the person who is always laughing and joking, so people wouldnt expect this feeling from me. but i have been this way for a long time, some days are good and some are terrible, its when im by myself or i see myself that i get down. i just wandered why someone would feel this way and does this feeling go away? and i will learn to love ,yself so i can be more happy or what? i know this is a stupid question when other people have way worse problems! but i thought i would ask. thank you
2007-01-22 14:29:38 · 22 answers · asked by Afire_Inside1983 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have this problem too. You don't see you like other people see you. Just try to think about the positive things about you and not the negatives. The more you think about what is bad about you, the more you dislike yourself. Have self confidence in yourself. When you do you will notice a change.
2007-01-22 14:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely have a self-esteem problem. I would suggest seeing a counselor or some type of professional help. It is a process to change one's view of themself and it's not easy to do alone, so you need an impartial party, not family or friends to really listen and understand that you are in turmoil. Also, I know it sounds silly, but affirmations really do help. You don't have to say them out loud, you could write them down, just 4-5 things about yourself that you like. And look at yourself in the mirror and smile, it really cheers you up, just to laugh when your alone, then you wouldn't have the thoughts that you have.
2007-01-22 14:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by b m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the guard down that is stopping you from loving yourself (and that is the difficult bit which I haven't even accomplished yet). I know what we have to do... it is doing them that is the problem; you also need to care more, if you don't care then you won't be able to love yourself. You need to be more thoughtful of your needs and treat yourself with a bit more respect; (again, difficult to do). I just try and take it a small step at a time, mentally challenging myself as to why I need the guard up, it seems to help a little bit.
2016-05-23 23:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly pal, you should consider seeking a psychologist. It sounds like you may be Clinically Depressed or possibly Bipolar (sorry if this offends.) If you can understand that the way you're thinking is wrong but can't change it on your own then there is most likely a physical [mental] problem here. Good luck, I wish there was more I could do.
2007-01-22 14:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by bricriu2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don;t focus on satisfaction...its un reachable...and that is ok!!
Ifyou feel big...work out more...set a goal and reach it.
Choose to be happy. Seriously wake up and look in the mirror and choose to have a good day. At the end of the day pick something good and be happy about that. Being dis satisfied is ok. Its normal, its healthy...its that dissatisfied feeling that makes us strive to be better....but you must choose to keep it in ahealthy context.
2007-01-22 14:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people, laughing and joking is a way to compensate for any perceived shortcomings. With all the "perfect" people we see on TV, Hollywood, advertisements, etc. sometimes it's hard to convince ourselves that we're just good enough as is.
2007-01-22 14:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by porridge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you discover that you're not the only person with problems in the world and there are people much worse off than you. Try community service.
Love the band in your screenname by the way.
2007-01-22 14:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self esteem and confidence, need to be developed by deliberate, dedicated efforts, with help from friends, books, regular habits promoting good health and therefore good cheer and a positive outlook all the time! You certainly are okay: go ahead, tell yourself that emphatically!
2007-01-22 14:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to appreciate the positives you have, and if you want to lose weight, then find a way to do it. There are lots of good, healthy programs out there these days that you help you lose weight slowly, which is more healthy.
2007-01-22 14:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have low self esteem. The way to learn to love yourself is think about all the good qualities you have, I know you can think of some focus on the positve
2007-01-22 14:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by 'lil peanut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋