We have not seen or spoke to him in about four years. Does anybody know how to go about legally changing his last name to mine?
2007-01-22 14:23:18 · 15 answers · asked by acura03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please dont do this unless your son is in agreement with this.
His name is part of his idenity. Even though his father seems like a loser to you and I, every child secretly believes that his dad is some sort of hero.
Try to stay positive to him and tell him that his dad cant be with him right now but you know for certain that his dad loves him.
This will do wonders for your son's selfesteem.
SUre you and I know that he is an azzhole but a chlid cannot understand that and might internalize his father's abandonment and feel that it was something that he did to make his dad not love him.....(it happens with divorce all the time).
The effects can be devistating.
Layoff on the name change if the child is over 6. It is unfair and confusing.
Calling a rose a piece of shyt and vice versa wont change the scent of the rose.
Changing your childs name might help YOU but wont do anything for your son.
Instead try to focus on the good things (I know that this is hard) that attracted you to his dad and tell your son about those. When he is old enough and when it does not matter as much as it does now, he will understand and thank you for it.
YOU R A (S)HERO
2007-01-22 15:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in some states you can ammed the birth certificate and that is done at no extra cost. Most of the time, the cut off is the age of two for the child, so your only other option is to do a legal name change through the court. You would need to see an attorney who specializes in domestic law and they could help.
Good luck
2007-01-22 14:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ashlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need legal counsel on this. Jurisdictions differ regarding their procedures. There are free legal clinics in most American cities and towns. Find one in case the biological father shows up with a claim. As for adoptive daddy: his job is to accept the boy as his new responsibility, and always do what is best for the boy. Naming is not so important, but building a productive and happy bond with this child may turn out to be much more fulfilling than step-daddy could ever imagine.
2016-05-23 23:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to get his permission to change the child's name. Contact a legal office in your area and see what the laws are on changing his name. They have legal offices that help with filling out paperwork, mostly paralegals, not attorneys. It's a lot cheaper! The one local here in So Cal is called "We the People". Good luck.
2007-01-22 14:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find the father and ask him to give up his rights. Or you submit to the courts a change of name form. My daughter is 13 and hasnt seen her dad in 12 yrs by his choice. She still has his last name I dont feel the need to run out and change it, because it really wont do anything for her
2007-01-22 14:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by **Damn its cold up here** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court and present the case. also go to social security and file a name change form. but if the father signed the birth certificate papers in the hospital and his name is on that then you unfortunitally do have to file it in court or if you do not want to go through that , your son either has to be 16 or 18 not to sure on the age but then he can change his last name if he wants. check the laws in the state you are in and good luck .
2007-01-22 15:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by whijess03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes a minor, then adoption and presto , different last name. I was raised by my stepfather (who I call dad) since I was two years old, and as a gift to my dad, I changed my last name to his, but I was 22 and it just took an hour or two in court and about $300.00 , buthe was so happy he cried and he deserved it. My bio father did not do anything for me but to get my mom pregnant. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-01-22 14:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in EXACTLY the same boat. I think that it is important for you to help him recognize that he is important to you- no matter what his last name may be.
As he gets older, he may want to do this, but don't do it out of a knee-jerk reflex to try to eliminate him from your lives. Your son may resent you for that later. Just love him for who he is and know that no matter how awful a father he may have been, he provided the seed to create this beautiful boy. Good Luck.....................
2007-01-22 14:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his last name is on the birth certificate you have to have his permission or your son turns 18 then he can change it.Unfortunately you should have thought of that before you put it on there.
2007-01-22 14:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go to the local dmv or social security office to change this, and show prove that you are the primaryand legal gaurdian of this child
2007-01-22 14:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋