Please help!?

Question

How can I overcome social anxiety??

Answer 1

I'm assuming here that you mean you get anxious being around people in a social context?

My sister had a bit of anxiety that over a few years, turned into full-on panic attacks just going to buy milk. I told her to think about what she thinks is going to happen that is so bad. She said she didn't like when the salespeople chatted to her because she could never think of what to say. I told her to think about the worst thing that could possibly happen, and was it likely that the person talking to her was going to jump the counter and hit her with a brick because her answer about the weather was inadequate? Was someone going to take a knife to her if she stuttered or her conversation was boring? How likely was it that the person would get straight on the phone after she'd gone and tell all her friends how stupid she was and organise a squad to be on the grass in front of my sister's house when she got home, with signs telling the passing traffic that she was a hopeless conversationist?
Be realistic with yourself, and kind to yourself. What do you think is going to happen when you're out being social. How likely are you to make a really bad social blunder that will really make a bad difference to your life? Be a bit careful, and stay away from the obvious ones, like asking a fat woman when her baby is due, cos you know there's a good Murphy's Law chance that she won't be pregnant!!! Take it one step at a time, and realise that even if you do make a bit of a blunder, most likely the only one who will remember it will be you!
Good luck!

Answer 2

I think the key to overcoming social anxiety is having absolute confidence in yourself. You have to walk into social situations with a mindset of "i am the king of this jungle and anyone who says otherwise is only kidding them self's" or something along those lines. Be cocky, but don't be too cocky cause' if you're too cocky, you'll just be a schmuck on wheels.

You'll find that you get a lot of respect from people with just a little change in self image. I know it sounds easier then it really is, but give it a shot. Next time you're at a social situation, be the king of that jungle. And others will see you with an aura of authority and will respect you. And when others respect you, you don't really have anything to be socially anxious about do you?

And also, forget pills. All they do is put you into a drunken stupor.

Answer 3

Small steps. Go out in social situations with peope you feel comfortable around. Like have your own comfortable bubble in an uncomfortable place. Alot of times it depends on what type of anxiety you have and what exactly triggers it. Take it slow and be proud of each small step.
Know that you have control and that you can control your feelings. Own what scares you.

Answer 4

What I did in high school, was make friends with people that where less popular..It felt better that way..And I met some real good friends, gosh I missed them!

Answer 5

Time, therapy.