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No, NO, NO,
Why would you even ask?

2007-01-22 14:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by Nort 6 · 2 0

Alot of people will answer this question but he's your husband and the real question lies in you.Can you handle looking at him everyday knowing he was with someone else. Are you up for sharing and knowing it's because he had an affair while he was married to you.looking at his child and trying not to have screwed up thoughts is almost unhuman and would take time. I'm not being mean to you ,I just want you to understand that it would take a great deal on your part. A great emotional turmoil you would be under.Could you do it ?Yeah a woman can do anything she puts her mind to.But do you want to be reminded of the worst moment of your guys marriage? A counselor would help definitly.It probably could of been better between the two of you if she didn't get pregnant. Pray on this one,and if you don't have any kids with him I would leave!!!!!!!!!

2007-01-22 14:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by pookie 2 · 0 0

Biblically you are not obligated to stay with him, because he has committed adultery. However, because people can forgive and people can change, you do have another option. If your husband is sorry and showing remorse for what he has done and is willing to do "anything and everything necessary to change", than your marriage is fixable. But, it cant be just a matter of what "you" want, "he" has to want it bad enough to make some changes and I don't mean just "saying", "I'll never do it again". He must go to counseling and support groups and anything else you want him to do. He has broke your trust. He must earn that trust back and it will take some time and he must prove to you he will do all it takes to earn your trust again. Love and forgiveness is free, but trust must be earned. If he is not willing to do all that, than you are wasting your time with him. You cant make people change. They only change cause they want to. It would be good for both of you to go because I suspect there is some areas of breakdown in your relationship. The other issue here is you. You will need to forgive him and not carry that bitterness inside you. It will cause you problems. You may need help with this so find a good counselor or pastor that does counseling work and make it a priority for you. Hope this helps. :)

2007-01-22 14:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

lol I just read another question by a guy that got another woman pregnant and wasn't telling his wife. I hope that's not the same one.
Anyway, it's obvious to me (an outsider) to see that he clearly hasn't found the right person. It's clear to me that you haven't found the right person either. The right person for you would not cheat on you and hurt you. I'm sure there were other things in the relationship going on that probably shouldn't have. This just gives it all the more evidence that it wasn't right.
I know I wouldn't want to stick around while my husband has a baby with another woman. I wouldn't even know how to explain that to anyone.

2007-01-22 14:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0 0

Personally, it would be extremely difficult to stay with him. I would not be able to trust him ever again. With that said, I haven't even thought about the unborn child. I wouldn't have anything against the child. I would always do my best to treat it the way I would want my children treated. If I couldn't trust him, I would probably just get out of the relationship. There is no sense in torturing both us and the kids. I have known way too many cheaters and they never quit. They keep doing it until someone finally does it to them. You only live once, get out and be happy.

2007-01-22 14:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by country girl 5 · 0 0

Depends on you. I know someone who did and eventually her husband divorced her to be with a third woman. It's a big gamble depending on what your husband is willing and planning to do from now on. Will he support this child? Are you ready for the fact that the other woman and this kid will always be in your life?
Are you willing to work through this? Is your husband?
Be as honest as you can with yourself, you have a long road ahead of you and a lot of healing to do. In the end, do what is best for you and your family, without worrying about image or other people perceptions of a perfect family.

2007-01-22 14:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1 0

depends because there is always a chance he will go back to her because of the child, if he doesn't go back to her u will still have her and the child in your life for a long time. not to mention the support payments, it's not something that is going to go away, visitation, support, the whole nine yards. the girlfriend may not allow him to bring the kid near u, because he chose u over her. just a string of problems that might come up. personally i couldn't stay with him, never know when he might decide the child is more important to him than u.

2007-01-22 14:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0 0

Yikes! It would be difficult, but I think that there's two sides to each story and I would try and listen and understand why he cheated before ending the relationship. If I still loved him, then I would try to work things out. But it would be tough, because now there's a constant reminder of the infidelity.

2007-01-22 14:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0 0

Im so sorry but me personally I wouldn't be able to put up with that BS. He needs to take responsibility for his actions and move the "F" up. You deserve better than that let him be. I know It hurts but look at it this way in the long run If you stay together It just makes things worst for u and your self esteem. Move on Baby.

2007-01-22 14:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by desiree 1 · 0 0

Ask yourself if you are better off with him in your life or without him.Even this can be forgiven, if you are both determined to work things out. It is not always true that once a cheater, always a cheater. Talk to your husband and find out how he feel about the situation, and analyze your feelings.Do not rush to make a decision.

2007-01-22 14:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by RY 5 · 0 0

properly, my mom is at the instant in the comparable project, yet she has been married for 10 years. She found out a pair of million a million/2 months in the past, that my dad were dishonest on her for approximately 3 months, and that his mistress his additionally pregnant. They stay in ok, however the mistress lives in Nova Scotia, Canada. He met her on a business enterprise holiday. for sure, my mom kicked him out of the homestead, and is getting a divorice. I could desire to assert i think of it is the suitable direction for any guy/woman in this occasion. you're in love with him, and it incredibly is going to be truly stressful, however the nice and cozy button is, he did it as quickly as, and no count number how undesirable he says he feels, he wasn't thinking approximately that as quickly as he became with this different woman. there became of course something lacking with him out of your courting, and somewhat than communicate it out with you and enable you already know methods he became feeling, he went elsewher to discover that. the unlucky ingredient is which you are the only which suffers via all of this, and it incredibly is time to tutor the script. be chuffed which you found out what form of man or woman he's now, somewhat than 10 years down the line. you are able to desire to think of constructive, understand which you probably did each and every little thing which you would be able to have the skill to to make the wedding ceremony artwork, relax chuffed understanding which you have been a good, devoted spouse, and kick his sorry a** to the diminish. You sound like a great spouse, and could sometime make some guy very pleased. chuffed adequate that he will have fun with each and every little thing which you would be able to desire to offer and take care of you like the lady you should be taken care of like. This guy would not deserve you, and additionally you would be able to of course do plenty greater proper than him, so do no longer carry lower back! bypass loopy, and revel in the unmarried life, and make him go through daily understanding what he misplaced! it truly is each and every of the recommendation i will supply, and that i'm hoping that it helps. good success!

2016-12-16 15:09:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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