We want to get married. By the time we are looking to get married, we will be 19 and 20 and have dated 4 years. We have never had sex. Our relationship has always been pretty out in the open with both our families. He will be out of college with a job and I will be a senior in college with good job prospects. We would wait 3-5 years before having children. What's your opinions?
2007-01-22 14:10:10 · 14 answers · asked by madmusician007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will not live with him nor have sex with him until we get married. Sorry, out of the question. I have traveled once to Europe and will go there again with my sister within the next year. He's traveled a few places with his friends.
2007-01-22 14:18:03 · update #1
And I will not get divorced. No matter what. My marriage will be for life, whether I get married at 19 or 49.
2007-01-22 14:19:13 · update #2
I think you 2 have thought this through and planned well. You seem very mature and have good goals in life. I think it's wonderful. I got married at 17, My hubby was 18 and had our child 10 yrs into our marriage. We are very happy in life & let me say that both of your parents should be proud to have raised such well adjusted and responsible children.
2007-01-22 14:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right with you, then sure! It's OK. Everyone is ready for marriage at different stages of their lives. I was 20 when I got married and my husband was 22. We have been married for 1 1/2 years now and are just fine. We were best friends for a couple of years before we even started dating, and then we dated for 4 years before we got married. We obviously took the time before hand to make sure this was the absolute right decision, and for us it was. We are also both full time college students...so your situation sounds like it will be even easier for you! Good luck.
Oh...and don't let anyone tell you you HAVE to live together first or have sex first. Not true!
2007-01-22 14:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was the same age when i got married and i love my husband dearly. we have been married for a year but we will both say that even though we were together 3 years before marriage, we should have waited longer. you are young and you have a long life ahead of you. make sure that is what you want to do at 19. i am 22 now and i like partying still and my husband is a loner. that doesnt go well together. make sure that you get all of your partying out of you before you settle down. otherwise it will cause problems with your marriage. good luck
2007-01-22 14:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by punkins_wife121705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the rush? You guys seem to have this pretty well thought out but it doesnt always turn out the way you thought it would. Wait until after college to get married. Live together for a while see how you like it first. 19 and 20 BIG MISTAKE take it from someone whos experienced it first hand.
2007-01-22 14:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sara M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really love one another, and have really talked about all of the major issues, than you should get engaged. But, don't get married too quickly. Be sure to graduate and get established before you devote yourself completely to marriage.
I got married to a man that I was head-over-heals in love with when I was 21. Though we were meant to be best friends, we were not meant to be married. You can conceal a lot of things from eachother when you are dating that can be shocking when you get married.
Just make sure that you really know eachother, and that marriage still feels like the right thing after graduation. Make sure that you know how you plan to handle things like finances and family before you make any big moves.
I say move forward if you want, just move slowly!
2007-01-22 14:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by CJ M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
generally i think young marriage is a really bad idea
but it sounds like you're already committed and going to do it. i mean it's not like you're going to date other people to see what's out there and learn more about what you want, because you're already stuck on each other. so just get married, but keep in mind even people who love each other can break up and get divorced. you're also going to miss out on those years when everyone else was single & dating, so if you end up divorced at 27 or so, it might be pretty weird for you. also you can change a lot as people in 5 years or so.
2007-01-22 14:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by some_one1234 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not live with each other before you get married---I think you are a little young but not too young.....by what u have said it seems like you both have talked at length about this and have made some very good concrete plans----good for you both---blessings on your future--and yes wait a few yrs b4 kids--enjoy being married --its a wonderful thing!
2007-01-22 14:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him than everything is o.k, but I get the feeling that you don't really understand what marriage is, there are no "guaranteed" families, there always is a possibility that relationships will not work out, and there is no ready formula how to make perfect family, I think you need to take your time, wait till you understand what family really is and then decide what you want.
2007-01-22 22:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married my husband at 19 years of age how ever we had sex before we were wedd . and my husband was 26 year's old when we met and now after 10 years of marriage and 2 kids were still together .
2007-01-22 14:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by KIMBERLY S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have already dated 4 yrs maybe a long engagement wouldn't be out of the question.. but you should travel and stuff before commiting to something like marriage
2007-01-22 14:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by waiting4myredemption 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋