how can one be a stronger individual?

Question

stronger as in more opinionated, not physically stronger. it just seems like sometimes people "walk all over me" because i'm too nice or i just don't want to make anyone upset so i keep it all inside. but then i build up all these frustrations inside. what can i do to stop this?

Answer 1

Fear has no place in leadership.

The way we influence people in a lasting way is by our own character, way of being, and understanding and use of emotion. We can order someone to do something, which may be part of the work day; or we can engage them at the emotional level, so they become invested in the project and provide some of their own motivation. Today's work place is all about relationships. It always has been, but it's just now being labeled as such.

Some of the most powerful people are the most soft-spoken and gentle. True strength is an inner strength that comes from the confidence of emotional intelligence - knowing your own emotions, and how to handle them, and those of others.

Think of the last time you saw someone lose their temper. Immediately your respect falls, yes? You may fear them, which is understandable because someone who cannot manage their own temper is unpredictable, but you will not respect them or find them worthy of "following" unless by coercion.

Anyone having a temper tantrum looks like a two-year-old, because they're acting like a two-year-old. There's no way around it.

Theodore Roosevelt's definition of diplomacy was, "Talk softly and carry a big stick." Every leader needs a large touch of diplomacy to influence others, create vision, and achieve goals. The "big stick" can be a sort of inner resolve - authenticity, if you will, and integrity. We are all too aware of when someone is authentic, and when they are phony, and no one wants to willingly follow someone they can't trust. There's that word again - trust. We trust people who are constant, predictable, and under good self-management.

What's the bottom line? Being strong and powerful refers to inner strength and power over yourself. No one can manage,lead or influence someone else if they, themselves, are out-of-control. Developing your emotional intelligence is the single best thing you can do if you want to develop your leadership skills.

Answer 2

Move to Jersey for a couple of years. We'll straighten you out.

Answer 3

THE MAIN POINT IS YOUR WILL POWER.

IF YOUR WILL POWER IS TOO HIGH U WILL BE MORE AND MORE POWERFUL.

AND SECOND IS YOUR ATTITUDE.