Ladies, how would you react if you caught your husband using pornography to masturbate? Would you get angry? Would you be OK with it? Would the type of pornography affect your reaction (softcore, hardcore, fetish, bondage, watersports ect) - in other words, are some types of porn OK but others unacceptable?
2007-01-22 13:56:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ANY porn EXCEPT kiddie would be a-okay with me. My hubby and i talk about urges, swapping, porn, strip clubs, anal, bondage. I think only very insecure jealous women get mad over women on a t.v screen. any fetish that dose not involve children is acceptable in my marriage.
2007-01-22 14:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I caught my significant other once watching softcore. I didn't get mad, but just a little sad. I told him that I felt a little jealous because may be he thought those women on TV to be more beautiful or sexy than me. He assured me that it was not the case and since then I haven't seen him watching anything of that nature, though it doesn't necessarily mean that he no longer watches those videos when I'm not there. However after that I realized that it's ok with me as long as I still feel wanted by him.
Had it been something other than softcore I probably would have been weirded out a little more since it would have meant that I don't know him as well as I thought I did.
2007-01-22 21:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by Yeva 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I had a problem with pornography when I was first married years ago. It bothered me. Now I have different feelings about it. I feel that as long as it is soft pron and no one is getting hurt in the video or magazine then it is okay for men to use it to masturbate. Masturbation is a natural thing, men do it more than women but I have no problem with it. As long as it's not done in a hurtful way and the video or magazine isn't about abusing women or killing them. But that's for me. You need to do what makes you comfortable. I would try to come to a compromise with your husband. I would be careful of giving him an ultamatum. Remember, men don't watch those videos for anything other than getting themselves off.
2007-01-22 14:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to stop this. Things will get worse from here on out. He will become addicted to porn, and you will find that he would prefer to masturbate to porn rather than have sexual relations with his wife. Soon this won't be good enough and he will start going out to see strippers. Then before you know it, he will start having one night stands and affairs. And then you'll be served with divorce papers, because he has found the love of his life, which is usually an 18 year old blond bimbo.
You need to have your pastor or a good Godly Christian man talk to him about this, before things snowball and he can't control it. This should be a wakeup call for you....I've seen this happen over and over again.
2007-01-22 14:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well i have never caught hubby watching porn but 1 time i went and checked history on computer and found he went to a website with naked women no big deal cause he can dream lol..We have talking about buying a porn movie..I have never had the oppurtunity to watch 1 but im curious as to what their like.
2007-01-22 14:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did catch my partner masturbating while watching porn, I was shocked, but I let it go that time...after that I realized he watched porn every single day before and after work, he wakes up in the middle of the night just to go and watch porn....I was so disappointed and sad and mad and confused because yes, we do have incredible sex almost every day... I talked to him and told him it hurts my feelings...he promised he won't do it again, he even cried because he said he didn't want to lose me...but hah ...he's still doing it...
2007-01-22 16:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i used to get mad but have realized that it's ok. he watches it if i am sick or having my period. i would rather him watch it than go out there and screw another woman. plus when i am not sick or ragging he gets what he wants to a point. so i guess my answer is yes some is acceptable and some is not. well i don't like hardcore violence or anal. not my type of thing and thank god not his either.
2007-01-22 15:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by whijess03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would join in with him, help him out. Only insecure women would be upset. Men are naturally vision, there is nothing wrong with it. The only porn that would bother me would be kiddie porn that is just unacceptable and I would report that.
2007-01-22 14:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by sexygoddess693 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For the ladies that watch with your husband, I love you all and we need more women like you. The world would be much better.
2007-01-22 14:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by speedlump2 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I think a guy is being a guy if he's looking at a few naughty pics every now and then. If he's doing his deed by it, that'd probably bother me. I'd wonder why he couldn't let me rock his world. If he's doing it every day, or for hours on end...he's got a problem. If he's into hardcore stuff, he may have some psychological problems too. I think it depends on the woman, and how much she can overlook.
2007-01-22 14:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋