my husband just got a car i dont know how much he put down on it or how much it cost,he has never shown me his check stubs i dont know what he makes and he doesnt give me an acceptable amount of money to take care of the family what are your thoughts ?
2007-01-22 13:55:58 · 17 answers · asked by tina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now there's a good idea... since it's income tax time of year, before you just sign them... look at them and see what he makes! Seriously, you should already know, he's not being a true partner in your marriage. I agree you should have a job, even a part-time one. Nobody should have to beg for money in a marriage. Talk to him about sharing your (yes, it's your, meaning both of yours) financial information.
2007-01-22 14:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not acceptable. Your his partner in marriage and you should know all that about him, my wife and I share everything as far as our paychecks and stubs go. And we are accountable to each other about what we buy and where, and how much we spend.
About him not giving you an acceptable amount of money to take care of the family is wrong, your family needs should come first before anything else. And it sounds like he's being very selfish and thinking only of himself instead of putting you and the kids before himself.
I think that you both would benifit from marriage counceling, but he has to be willing to go.
Hope that this helps.
Take care and God Bless
2007-01-22 22:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is hiding his assets from you. It's a form of control and will certainly come in handy when he decides to divorce you some day and you can't prove what he makes or how much money he has. What reason does he give for keeping this information from you? How do you file your taxes? You need counseling because he obviously doesn't believe in the whole marriage thing of sharing and trusting and community property.
2007-01-22 22:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO
A marriage is a legal partnership as well as an emotional relationship. Civil law-wise, you and him are the same person, so he has a legal DUTY to tell you exactly how much he makes and how much he spends.
Incidentally, this is why you should have a job of your own and your own income (no woman should ever be 100% dependent on a man for her income!!!)
It's time for you to demand full financial disclosure - and to get a job of your own, so you don't have to beg him for money to pay the household expenses!
2007-01-22 22:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It isn't acceptable. I have been there myself. My ex-husband did exactly the same thing. After 10 years, he took the pick-up HE bought on the loan he took out at HIS bank, loaded up HIS stuff, took whatever he could get his hands on at home, and left. Hasn't been seen or heard from by myself or his son in 3 years.
There is ABSOLUTELY no reason he shouldn't tell you ever single detail about the finances. (Don't let him use excuses either- I fell for the one about how he didn't want me to know how much he spent if he bought me a gift line- I ended up paying for that gift for 2 years after he left!!!)
Stick up for yourself and don't let him take advantage of you!!
2007-01-22 22:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your attorney can find out and so can child support enforcement if you know his social sec #. What is he hiding anyway, probably the fact that he is giving his money to some other woman on the side, ie paying her rent, buying her clothes, dinner etc. Why stay with an a**hole like that.
2007-01-22 22:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is his choice whether he wants to tell yo uor not but he should be taking care of the family and bills and expenses if he is the one working ... If you dont have enough talk to him and ask him to pay things since you cant... You also might want to think about getting a job to help out with bills and such.
2007-01-22 22:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only person that can answer that is you. As far as most marriages based on equality though, the answer is no. Unless you as the wife have an income that you don't disclose to him.
2007-01-22 22:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by Brian W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another controlling Man! This is a form of abuse, by not letting you know about the fiances and income .he is keeping you in the dark Bring up counseling and tell him why
2007-01-22 22:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
think he is holding out on u, not being fair, saving the lions share for himself. he doesn't trust u, wants to keep u in the dark about how much he earns. time to confront him, sounds like he is shortchanging his family to get ahead in life, denying his family the things they need while he pockets all the money. sounds like a very bad marriage. maybe time to confront him. time to confront him about what he is doing.
2007-01-22 22:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋