I am single and have been told by married couples that when it is the one you just know it...is this true or do you fall in love over time by getting to know someone?
2007-01-22 13:55:11 · 12 answers · asked by Nic79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe there is, but remember, fairy tales are not realistic either. You may pass up a good "one" if you are waiting for "one" that makes the Earth shake. Be intuitive.
2007-01-22 13:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy this nonsense.
There is no "one". But, there are many out there that could become your "one". And, then, the real work begins: building a one...together.
We all go through various stages of development in our lives, however. Your "one" at 20 might be "done" at 25.
What you wanted at 16 is very different from what you want at 18, right? Well, you can multiply that over many times during a lifetime.
It is truly rare that a couple develops and changes exactly the same way over a life time. I don't know any that ever have. But, I imagine that there probably are a few.
Those that are telling you that "you will just know" are either lying outright or are living in some kind of denial of reality. "True love" is a lot of hard work, sacrifice, dedication, commitment, trust, forgiveness, tolerance....and, a sense of humor doesn't hurt, either. Most married couples question the wisdom their choice in mates thousands of times during a marriage. Perfectly normal...and healthy, because it creates the dynamic of working together to make things better.
Growing in love is a lot more rewarding than falling into it....although, that may be how it starts out. The last part of your question leads me to believe that you have already seen through the romantic mythology of your married friends. Talk to some older couples - they'll give you a little more mature perspective.
2007-01-22 22:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know when you find the one. That part is true, however, I don't think you grow into love, you definitely fall in. My husband said he was going to marry me the first time we ever made eye contact, we didn't even talk that day. I knew he was the one after one short date. I do think that your love for one another grow over time, into a mature, deep love, but you still need that "take my breathe away" love too!
2007-01-22 22:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nic, people are just not that patient! My answer is yes. There is that "special one" for us all. I found mine, but, only after my ex divorced me. If I would have just waited. I hear that over and over again. I can't help but think of that song...."Ain't it sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes along". Thank God I waited for the second one. We've been married almost 19 years now.
2007-01-22 22:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our life needs a foundation first and foremost.....It starts by having a relationship with Jesus....than walk in love....than find someone, become friends, and go from there......God bless ya
2007-01-22 22:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i sure believe there is... They are right and you will know it when he comes along or she comes along... I knew it when my husband came along.... your heart tells you so. Sometimes it does take time though it all depends on the person or persons in the relationships.
2007-01-22 22:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After dating my wife for over a year, I knew she was "the one".
2007-01-22 22:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love starts at friends and then starts at going out and if you are with them for 2 years they say that hes obviously the one. trust me youll noo it when it hits you like a train
2007-01-22 21:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by AsHlEe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is only ONE "the one"... I think there are several for different points in your life. However, there may be only one "the one" for a select group
2007-01-22 22:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if we fall in love, that person we can;t call the one coz we can fall in love with just anybody. but when the person can cooperate with you and you feel the 'harmony', that is the one.
2007-01-22 22:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by kito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋