My bestfriend HATES her brother and she went away for a month so when she was gone me and my other friend fell for his charms.. He makes a girl feel like shes the only girl in the world. So we feel for his charm. My friend made love to him but I only gave oral. When she came back my friend realised in out circle of friendship there should be no lies so we told her. Now she hates us and we have hurt her really badly.
Is there anyway we can make it up to her. She wont even talk to us
2007-01-22 13:53:19 · 23 answers · asked by OhReally 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you just have to slowly earn your trust back. But at least you were honest about it and didn't wait until you were caught
2007-01-22 13:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mmhmm, he made the TWO of you feel like the only one. I've met lots of guys like that, and if you don't die young, you're gonna' meet more yourselves.
Well, you can only wait now. Just be open, receptive, and don't try to push or hurry her. She's got some serious healing to do inside, as well as sorting out the validity of her friendship w/you two. This might be the very thing she hates her brother for (con artist, user, deceiver), or something worse (let's not go there now).
It sounds like you've acknowledged everything that happened and apologized. She may come around, but with the trust violated, it may have an impact on her the depth of which you may not fathom.
Be patient, this is much harder for her than you two. Keep reflecting on the steps which led you to allow this to happen and consider it a lesson learned, so that a decade or two from now you won't be compelled to repeat it again (with marriages/children involved).
Keep your tails tucked for awhile.
2007-01-22 22:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by Zeera 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the answers given by the other respondents to your question were very good. I even gave most of them thumbs up ratings.
This best friend of yours must have hated her brother for a good reason. I question your motives on doing such disgusting things with someone, when your best friend hated them, even though it is her brother. It seems to me like you all are under age...except maybe the brother. I don't know, that information was not given. I would be furious if my best friend played around with my sister like that, no matter how attractive she is. It takes two to tango, and in your situation, three...you can't place all the blame on this hated brother. Sure you confessed...but like most of the others, I'll agree that you will have to bend over backwards if you want to rescue the friendship. It is up to her...and you should be groveling every time you see her. Dedicate her favorite song or something significant on the radio station you know she listens to, since she's your best friend, you probably should know a lot about her.
2007-01-22 22:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jalapinomex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emily,
Yes you really screwed up (literally). What I see from your comments however is that all of this is the fault of her brother who hypnotized you with his charm. And, the other girl had sex, you only gave him oral! don't buy it, she doesn't buy it either. You say you're sorry but here you have accepted no responsibility for what you did. Why should your friend trust you? You don't think its your fault!
You may have screwed up so bad that you may have lost a friend. Give her time. If she won't be your friend anymore, then use the experience as a good life lesson. And.... you really have to quit being so easy.........
2007-01-22 22:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope that friendship is over.
Oh and the chick who went all the way with the brother did not "make love". You have to be in love to make love. They had sex or more crudely put...F**ked. Using soft language doesn't change what happened. If your grown enough to do the deed, be grown enough to know what it is you are really doing. Don't delude yourself.
Take this as a life lesson. Betrayal only leads to pain and heartache, and no man is worth it. I hope his ejaculate was worth it, because that is all you have left of that friendship.
2007-01-22 22:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to let this mend on it's own. She may never get over it. She may appreciate one day that you both told her the truth. Why does she hate him? Is it just that sibling rivalry or has he done something really terrible to her? The best thing is to NOT talk to her. Not like giving her the cold shoulder, but keep trying to apologize will only make her more mad. Keep your distance and wait for her.
2007-01-22 22:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by #1 Buckeye Fan!!!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My problem with this is that if she was your friend you probably would've thought about your friend before doing her brother. I mean you should've asked, it's one of those things that you do. Cut all contact from the brother and try to be as humble and apologetic to your "friend." You "screwed" up big, cuz I mean she was only gone for a month. Shame.
2007-01-22 21:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sexual attraction is pretty strong huh?
It's hard to hold back, even if your best friend hates the guy--oh and on top of it, the guy is her own brother who she has to have for the rest of her life...
Seems to me that friendship is more important than sex. Either she gets over it, or you get over your friendship.
2007-01-22 22:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you both had sex with him? oral is still sex. doesn't matter that it wasn't intercourse.
you didn't mention why she hates him. is it because he's an a**?
that "falling for his charm" crap is just an excuse. no one is that charming. you had sex with him, and now have no relationship with either him or your best friend. good job. she's mad. let her work it over in her head. if she wants to, she'll speak to you again.
2007-01-22 21:59:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
time could heal the wounds ,give her some space.if healing is in the offing she'll come around, if not then count it a lesson learned that cost u a friend,only this time don't let your "mouth" write a check your butt can't cash.
2007-01-22 21:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋