She is spoilt, lazy and mouthy. She is just 14 and when I try to talk about it, he tells me she isn't that bad and gets mad at me. She always tells him ugly things and is very rude. Every weekend we get in a fight over her....she just throws trash around won't even put it in the trash and I clean the house except her room & he cleans it up instead of making her. What should I do?
2007-01-22 13:50:48 · 8 answers · asked by HORVATH B 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
You should be HAPPY that she only comes over every-other weekend !!
I have a 14 year old girl and she's like that 24/7.
2007-01-22 14:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by BigTip$ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have two options... accept things as they are or change them. Have you thought about finding a place to go every other weekend? You don't have to be around his daughter... he does. Now you cannot expect him to make a decision of choosing between you or his daughter but he shouldn't expect you to stay where you are not respected either by him or her. This may be just a stage the kid is going through or it may be the way the kid is ... either way, you have to look out for YOU. If you are getting nowhere in telling him how you feel, perhaps it's because he doesn't care how you feel? I am not being mean... just honest. Perhaps you should find a place of your own or with a roommate who will be more open to compromises and respect. The good news is he sounds like a decent guy to at least care about the kid but she should not be forced upon you.
2007-01-22 14:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really it's her Dad and she see you as invading her territory, have compassion and sometimes that's really hard, but your the adult so think of ways to get closer to her, before you ask her to do anything and (or what she sees as demands) Then see by talking to her and it may take time what her likes and colors, clothes and hopes and desires are. Include her in yours and your friends life. Teach her if shes willing how to cook by maybe cooking something she likes, and crafts if that's what she likes, Think about if it were you coming in on week ends to your territory and she probably is feeling insure. About her room, maybe she doesn't know how to, Take time to show her how to organize, get her equipment put things away before they wrinkle and ect.Just learn that love never fails and maybe this is a child you could add value to her life sincerely
2007-01-22 14:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, I dont understand why you are asking this question in the careers and employment section, whatever.
If she is there every other weekend, why dont you plan things with your friends while your boyfriends child is there. How long have you dated and lived with this guy? It is not your responsibility to parent this child. It sounds like her dad needs to tell her how it is. He needs to set clear rules with her and make her respect you and his house.
Good luck!
2007-01-22 13:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by lucky_one_happy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you are not going to win this one. Stop the fighting. Maybe you could do something with this girl. Shopping or get a new hair do but try try something different. Remember if you stay with this guy this is what you have to look forword to.
2007-01-22 14:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by thmsnbrgll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey.......You don't have to deal with her crap.........if he really truly loves you .........he would listen to what you have to say about his daughter............and tell her to straighten up.
If you really love this man stay w/ him and put up w/ his daughter or move on and find a single man w/out kids
2007-01-22 13:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by Q. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to be patient with her coz she's your bf's daughter...now, if you love your bf, you should also love & accept the ones he loves...1 is his daughter...you dont even know, she might just be testing you if youre worth of her dad.... be nice...
2007-01-22 13:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by fashion時尚嬰孩玩偶doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live with it.
you will never win this one!!!!!!!!!!!!
AND if you keep it up you will definately loose!!!
he will keep the kid and dump the girlfriend, so just sit back and live with it.
2007-01-22 13:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋