My husband has a very close girlfriend that I never knew until recently when I found out their relationship. He was trying to hide it from me. Once I knew, he promised he would never see the woman again. However, after numerous promises, I found out again he is still seeing the same woman...
Should I leave him?
Or Should I try to stop him?
2007-01-22 13:50:37 · 18 answers · asked by Minnie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
D-I-V-O-R-C-E Once a cheater, always a cheater. I cannot understand why people take someone back that has done it.
2007-01-22 13:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by T B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't change his behavior. You can only change your behavior.
If he was serious about maintaining a good relationship with you he would never have seen this woman again.
Take time now to do for you. Get some counselling because you've just had a crushing blow. A good counselor can help you make a plan for You and get over the hurt.
2007-01-22 22:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by booktender 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had same issue with my ex husband. Sure you could leave. Don't know if you have kids or how long you have been married... BUT... what about you finding a long lost "friend" and start spending time with him, see how hubby likes it. Let him know in a calm, rational manner that you know he still see's her, and tell him you give up and it's OK but that you do NOT appreciate being lied to. A week later, let him know you have plans with your old close guy friend..
Suggest you and she and him go out together sometime.
2007-01-22 22:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by tlp1203 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, force him to leave, file for divorce and move 50% of the available cash out of accounts keeping records so that your legal. Don't let him do this to you; you have all ready done enough, time for this to end. Don't do any of the above until you talk to lawyer, to see what other options you may have. Remember once a cheat always a cheat.
2007-01-22 22:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can't be trusted and he's obviously willing to lie to you so he can continue to see the other woman. You can't stop someone who is a determined cheat. And you sure can't trust him anymore. I think it's time to leave. You need to value yourself more. You deserve far better than what you're getting. If he's willing to go to counseling, you might give it a try, but he doesn't sound too committed.
2007-01-22 21:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he has not kept his promise of not seeing her anymore, I would contact the girl. Have a heart to heart talk with her. She may not even realize what her presence in your relationship is doing to you two. Who knows, maybe you two will become friends and the three of you can hang out.
2007-01-22 22:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by alexis09178 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the zero and find you a hero. If he promised he wouldn't, but what is, then most likely when his lips are MOVING, he's lying and will continue to do so. Do you want to live like this forever? Do you want to wonder where he is, with whom, and what he's doing forever? There are plenty of people out there willing to committ, that you don't need to settle for table scraps.
2007-01-22 21:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you mean he's dating another woman as opposed to has a close female friend.
If he's dating someone else, you don't stop him; you can't stop him. You leave him.
If he just has a close friend that's female, why does it bother you? Women usually seem to think it's OK to have good male friends and their husbands should just suck it up and accept it.
2007-01-22 22:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by Brian W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he doesn't value his marriage otherwise he wouldn't have kept seeing her throughout the marriage...Why would you WANT to stop him...I'd change all the locks in the home and tell him to go to her place from now on, then I'd go see a lawyer.
2007-01-22 21:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why try to stop him, habits are hard to break. Leave him, why should you be second in this trio of love ?
2007-01-22 22:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave. I'm too good to share my man. Hold yourself in a higher regard Girl...
2007-01-22 21:54:48 · answer #11 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋